These are the danger signs that you need help and should seek it.
A strong personal belief that there is no other way out.
A strong belief that no one and no event can help you.
A deep shame, an embarrassment, a mortification that cannot be erased.
The sudden loss or imminent loss of someone close to you. It can be losing a parent or having a partner walk out on you or a relationship or marriage breakup.
Loss of a key mentor or coach. Someone who you have looked up to all your life. A feeling that life will never be the same after their passing.
A retreat from existing activities, relationships and people.
Certain events play over and over again in your head. Especially events of a lacerating nature. When it stops, you kick it along anew. A desire to hurt yourself needlessly. Like replaying in your mind the antics of a disloyal lover.
A feeling that you have lived your heyday. That your best days are behind you.
Being betrayed by your partner and your best friend. Simultaneously.
An inability to live out the moment. To see the moment to its logical conclusion/resolution/denouement. A desire to stop living past the moment, to stop seeing what happens past the moment.
Ongoing episodes of depression, despair and anxiety that is left untreated. Perhaps you feel going to a psychiatrist is for sissies not for a strong person like you.
Fear of resolving whatever it is leading to the road to despair. There is a greater fear of the resolution than of the fear itself and its current manifestation. But even in its lesser form, the fear itself is enough to lead you to think of ending it all.
An inability or reluctance to use the existing process for resolving the current impasse. Perhaps a desire to invent a new process or give up trying.
Irrational thoughts or desires expressed in actions that do not reach the intended target in a reasonable period of time.
How to prevent the suicide of a loved one?
The danger signs to watch out for in a loved one.
There is a difference between the following symptoms in a psychopath and the same symptoms in a suicidal person. In a psychopath there is no realisation that the following positions are anything but normal (and therefore they cause little internal alarm or anxiety). In a suicidal person there is a persistent realisation that the following scenarios are abnormal and therefore they cause deep anxiety and alarm. It is the latter state of mind that is a slippery slope to suicide. The danger signs above are equally applicable to below except that unless you're very perceptive you won't know it is happening. So I have recast the above from the point of view of someone outside looking in.
Detachment from reality. A serene calm acceptance of the current situation no matter how bad it seems to someone from outside that situation.
The irrational seen as normal, desirable and sought after.
Mood swings. Between two poles of ecstatic happiness and deepest despair. With perhaps in reality (whatever that may be in this situation) not being as good or as bad as the extremes are made out to be.
Undue and perhaps total reliance on others. On what others can do to relieve or retrieve the current situation.
Unrealistic belief in what others can do to relieve the current situation.
Desire to escape poorly articulated and not based on any realistic and realisable plans. Poor planning or planning in the realms of fantasy.
Undue reliance on the one change event that will solve all your problems such as a horse winning or a lottery win. Every time you rely on this event it fails you yet you are still relying on it.
Addctions out of control. Use of alcohol, tobacco and illegal drugs more than usual perhaps accompanied by keeping odd hours and lack of sleep.
Lack of purpose, moping about waiting for time to pass. Shock and numbness. Uncommunicative.
An unexplained change in habits, behavior or in day to day activities.
About Gilbert Labour
Mr Labour is a strategist, consultant, adviser, speaker and presenter on psychopathy in the workplace, life coaching, executive coaching, project and program management, Six Sigma process improvement and people management.
He combines all these skills in a brilliant combination, utilising Six Sigma and project management, to provide modern enlightened companies with truly innovative advice that will create a sustainable competitive advantage. Mr Labour exercises his skills and influence with compassion and deep understanding of the human condition especially where restructures result in overwhelming change and job loss.
He specialises in the following industries: legal and accountancy, telecommunications, transportation and aviation, banking and finance, insurance, government, IT and outsourcing and believes that his experience in these verticals is applicable across all industries, countries, languages, cultures and businesses generally. He has 30 years corporate experience in these industries.
Every single industry he specialises in (telcos, aviation, retail banking, insurance, outsourcing) faces fundamental challenges to continued survival and prosperity in the 21st Century and Mr Labour is well placed to provide a multi-disciplinary approach to uncovering insights for competitive advantage.
He sees the management of strategic, compliance and operational risk as one of the key issues facing executive managers on a daily basis. But not all companies can take advantage of formal Basel II and Sarbannes-Oxley (SOX) governance models.
For those companies that are not in the financial industry but still require strong governance around the management of operational risk, Mr Labour is an expert on creating strategies for managing operational risk supported by strong programme management structures to ensure compliance.
He has been extensively involved in process improvement initiatives within project and production environments. He has delivered Six Sigma Green and Black Belt process improvement programs that provide bottom line improvement whilst maintaining and enhancing employee morale.
He also owns and runs one of the world's most comprehensive web resources on the topic of life and executive coaching containing over 1500 pages of advice and more than 140 articles on life and executive coaching. He has also been quoted in learned papers, newspaper and magazine articles.
He has written a book on life coaching, Life Coaching for DODOs, which provides an introduction to life coaching for the general public. He has also written a book on executive coaching, Executive Coaching for Process Improvement Excellence, that provides daily insights for top managers looking to succeed in today's fast paced environment.
He is also a pioneer in the field of coaching and project management having presented a landmark paper on this topic at PMISA 2004 (World Conference on Project Management) in South Africa in May, 04. His paper entitled Sane Project Management, a Life and Executive Coaching Approach has created both a new field in project management and a new area of interest and research for coaching and coaches around the world.
For PMISA 2006 he is presenting a paper entitled
Project Management and Six Sigma - a convergent and divergent model. He seeks to develop a theoretical and practical model to extract readily applicable business approaches from both divergence and convergence of these two disciplines.
He will explore whether coaching can facilitate the extraction of some of the benefits of this convergence? This will be continuing an exploration of the connection between coaching and project management that he first developed and presented at PMISA 2004.
Mr Labour acknowledges that in today's highly competitive and rapidly changing business environment, a busy consultant, life coach or executive coach must evince a compelling value proposition, as much for himself as for his product and service.
His unique value proposition is bringing to bear, on difficult even intractable business problems, a brilliant mix of both quantitative and qualitative approaches, embracing Six Sigma, Lean, project management, executive coaching, operational and line management.
He has a refreshing engaging and vibrant perspective on life and business in the corporate world. He is able to engage with any company in the world, within his industry expertise and beyond, and provide an assessment of the issues and problems that management suspects exists. He does this on a pro-active basis and confidentially.
He is also able to execute or be involved in the execution of any recommendations resulting from these engagements. He has previously managed large programs of work involving major restructuring, outsourcing and downsizing.
He forecasts a greater demand for people with his unique blend of skills in the future especially where established, staid inefficient companies in otherwise dynamic industries face head-on competition from more efficient home grown companies and those companies thriving in the tiger economies of China and India with their vast pool of cheap, educated and trained local talent.
Mr Labour will be holding a world's first life coaching retreat in Mauritius in November, 06. This will be a gathering of coaches and their clients from around the world in the first gathering of its type.
Its purpose will be for coaches to network with other coaches and for clients to share their general coaching experience with other clients and coaches. All in the world's most beautiful holiday destination.
Further details will be made available as they are finalised. This conference as yet untitled will be hosted by the Life Coaching Association of Australia (LCAA).
Life Coaching Tips and Techniques No. 10
Obesity and the roller coaster ride from nadir to zenith and back
There are five journeys in obesity, which one are you on now?
Why are there obese people when there are people starving in the world? Is obesity a medical problem rather than
one of lack of self-control or perhaps even one using food for sexual/sensual gratification for masking (?) the real problems?
How successful is someone who is 250 kilos at 'masking' or hiding the problem?
The five journeys is obesity are -
Getting there becoming obese, this is the easiest journey of all and happens almost without you knowing. This journey is on the road to death.
Staying there at a steady weight, this is a hard journey because the tendency is to put on more weight not less. This journey is a slow death.
The next journey is one into hell and that is on the road to putting on more and more weight. This is the last journey these people even embark on.
This journey ends in death.
The penultimate journey and the one with the most difficulty starting is the road back away from obesity. The enormous journey back is not the problem
but the first step back, the first gram lost. This journey is not a journey of weight loss but a journey to lose the fears and problems that the weight gain had
temporarily put on the back burner. This second last journey is the life coaching journey and has much less to do with weight loss, exercise and fitness and more to do with
facing problems in their real intensity and fury perhaps for the first time since the decision taken to embark on the first journey.
The last journey and that is to keep the weight at the target weight after the massive task of weight loss because again the tendency is to put the weight back on
even faster than before and much much faster than it was lost. For every gram lost a kilo is put on.
Work with a life coach who understands your weight problem is not a weight problem but a personal problem posing, impersonating a weight problem. Someone who knows which
journey you are on and can make sure you either move to the next healthy journey or stay at the healthy journey you're on.
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Coaching Programs
555 Program
The 555 Program is complementary to the 333 Program and is part of a family of programs called The Numbered Series, a simplification of a plethora of products, services and programs into
a number of specifically targeted set of programs that target a very specific audience with a limited amount of time and resources to devote to a life and executive coaching program. The programs
covers a set of goals over a set period for a specific (one time only) fee.
The key goals of the 555 Program is to be able to run 5k in 5 months, to solve 5 life coaching issues or problems in 5 months and to investigate and resolve 5 executive coaching problems
in 5 months.
Life Coaching Portal Programs
Beyond the existing Diamond program being run on the portal, a series of additional programs are being developed to be run for specific audiences and which have very clear targets and goals.
These include the following.
The 555 Program
Gilbert Labour, will personally run this program. It will probably take in the region of 10 suitable people and run for 5 months. The program is multi-faceted and covers three main streams a fitness stream, a life coaching stream
dealing with personal issues and an executive stream to supercharge your work, business and corporate environment.
The first stream is a fitness element. The goal is to be able to run 5k (non stop) in five months and be able to lose 5 kilos in the process. This is a modest achievement and is considered a healthy approach to fitness generally.
I am a former fitness instructor and dance teacher and can provide guidance in this area. You will need a clearance from your doctor if you're over 45.
The second stream is a life coaching element. The goal of the life coaching is to investigate a number of current personal issues and focus on 5 for resolution in 5 months. One to be resolved or at least worked on each month.
The third stream is an executive coaching element. The goal of this element is to come up with five goals or issues to be dealt with in the 5 months of the program. These could involve working towards a promotion, changing jobs, changing careers,
leaving the corporate environment and developing a small business. For the hard core executives and other corporate thrivers and survivors there will be a number of areas that include executive interview training and executive decision making that can be covered.
There are many others and these can be chosen based on your current goals. The aim of this stream is canvass all the possibilities and focus on only 5 and work through each one.
The cost of the program varies. To take part on a one-on-one basis with Gilbert Labour will cost $5000. To take part in a group setting will cost $2000. Individual programs can start at anytime considered suitable.
To provide this program on a company wide basis (more than 10 people), please call Gilbert Labour for a quote.
Please call Gilbert Labour on 0409 223 436 if you would like to take part. Further information on the 555 Program is available from the portal.
General Information
I also do a small amount of pro-bono work in the area of life coaching. I belong to the Life Coaching Pro Bono Group (LCPBG), a group of life coaches I am putting together to do this type of work for people in need but who may not be able to afford the services of a full fee life coach. We make allowances for your circumstances and also on the understanding that once you're back on your
feet, your capacity to contribute to your life coaching will also improve.
Generally speaking, we will set clear goals, we will put in place plans to attain those goals, we will execute the plan effectively. We will monitor and survey the results and ensure our goals are met. In most cases, we will envelope what we are trying to achieve into a coaching programme.
I operate flexibly taking into account the needs of the client as we progress with the programme.
Please call me on my mobile (0409 223 436) for a confidential discussion to begin the journey of self discovery.
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