Gemini Personal Training Presents Group Training Sessions @Maroubra Beach every Saturday
Starting 6/12/08 consisting of -
Beach Run
Hill Run - Starting bottom of Broome St
Flexibility/Stretching Routines
Time will be approx 2 hours (inc. short breaks).
Bring water, hat, insect repellent and sunscreen.
Session 1: Commencing at 8:30am. Meet at bottom of Broome St, Maroubra.
Session 2: Commencing at 11:00am. Meet at bottom of Broome St, Maroubra.
Please call 0406164801 for details or forward an email to arc24@ihug.com.au
for a fitness assessment form. You will need to complete a fitness assessment before participation.
Cost is $20 per person per session. Max 10 person per session. This session is run by a fully qualified, registered and insured personal trainer/gym instructor (Registration #00013672).
About Gilbert Labour
Mr Labour is expanding his coaching
business into the personal training (PT) space and focusing more on
individuals in the corporate area that require PT services and
career transition coaching. He has recently developed a unique
program that combines both targeting high stress high achieving
individuals in the corporate market who are looking to get out of
that environment in a planned way.
Mr Labour has recently completed a new book Corporate Psychopathy - Death in the Workplace. This resource provides a key starting point for
people working in corporate environments who are suffering under the
regime of an out of control psychopath. It provides robust proven
strategies for overcoming the mental and physical problems caused by
a psychopath. This book is available direct from Mr Labour for
$29.95 plus postage and handling. In addition for each book sold, $5
will be going to Coaches with Borders for developing work and life
skills for the poor in Mauritius.
Mr Labour is a strategist, consultant,
adviser, speaker and presenter on corporate restructuring,
psychopathy in the workplace, life and executive coaching, project
and program management, Six Sigma and Lean process improvement.
He combines all these skills in a unique
combination, utilising Six Sigma and project management, to provide
modern enlightened companies with truly innovative advice that will
create a sustainable competitive advantage. Mr Labour exercises his
skills and influence with compassion and deep understanding of the
human condition especially where restructures result in overwhelming
change and job loss.
He specialises in the following industries:
legal and accountancy, telecommunications, transportation and
aviation, banking and finance, insurance, government, IT and
outsourcing and believes that his experience in these verticals is
applicable across all industries, countries, languages, cultures and
businesses generally. He has 30 years corporate experience in these
industries.
Every single industry he specialises in
(telcos, aviation, retail banking, insurance, outsourcing) faces
fundamental challenges to continued survival and prosperity in the
21st Century and Mr Labour is well placed to provide a
multi-disciplinary approach to uncovering insights for competitive
advantage.
He sees the management of strategic,
compliance and operational risk as one of the key issues facing
executive managers on a daily basis. But not all companies can take
advantage of formal Basel II and Sarbannes-Oxley (SOX) governance
models.
For those companies that are not in the
financial industry but still require strong governance around the
management of operational risk, Mr Labour is an expert on creating
strategies for managing operational risk supported by strong
programme management structures to ensure compliance.</>
He has been extensively involved in process
improvement initiatives within project and production environments.
He has delivered Six Sigma Green and Black Belt process improvement
programs that provide bottom line improvement whilst maintaining and
enhancing employee morale.
He also owns and runs one of the world's
most comprehensive web resources on the topic of life and executive
coaching containing over 1500 pages of advice and more than 250
articles on life and executive coaching. He has also been quoted in
learned papers, newspaper and magazine articles.
He has written a book on life coaching
which provides an introduction to life coaching for the general
public. He has also written a book on executive coaching, Executive
Coaching for Process Improvement Excellence, that provides daily
insights for top managers looking to succeed in today's fast paced
environment.
He is also a pioneer in the field of coaching and project management having presented a landmark paper on this topic at PMISA 2004 (World Conference on Project Management) in South Africa in May, 04. His paper entitled Sane Project Management, a Life and Executive Coaching Approach has created both a new field in project
management and a new area of interest and research for coaching and
coaches around the world.
For PMISA 2006 (World Conference on Project Management) he has written a paper entitled Project Management and Six Sigma - a convergent and divergent model for solving business problems. He seeks to
develop a theoretical and practical model to extract readily
applicable business approaches from both divergence and convergence
of these two disciplines.
He will explore whether coaching can
facilitate the extraction of some of the benefits of this
convergence? This will be continuing an exploration of the
connection between coaching and project management that he first
developed and presented at PMISA 2004.
Mr Labour acknowledges that in today's
highly competitive and rapidly changing business environment, a busy
consultant, life coach or executive coach must evince a compelling
value proposition, as much for himself as for his product and
service.
His unique value proposition is bringing to
bear, on difficult even intractable business problems, a brilliant
mix of both quantitative and qualitative approaches, embracing Six
Sigma, Lean, project management, executive coaching, operational and
line management.
He has a refreshing engaging and vibrant
perspective on life and business in the corporate world. He is able
to engage with any company in the world, within his industry
expertise and beyond, and provide an assessment of the issues and
problems that management suspects exists. He does this on a
pro-active basis and confidentially.
He is also able to execute or be involved
in the execution of any recommendations resulting from these
engagements. He has previously managed large programs of work
involving major restructuring, outsourcing and downsizing.
He forecasts a greater demand for people
with his unique blend of skills in the future especially where
established, staid inefficient companies in otherwise dynamic
industries face head-on competition from more efficient home grown
companies and those companies thriving in the tiger economies of
China and India with their vast pool of cheap, educated and trained
local talent.
Executive Coaching Tips and Techniques No. 88
Workplace stress leading to suicide
Life coaching strategies to prevent workplace related suicides
Don't be afraid of the change you need to make. There is greater danger in not changing than there is in changing
Workplace stress is a very serious personal issue that must be firstly taken seriously by the management of any organisation that has endemic stress because of the nature of the work (for example meeting sales targets) or where psychopaths and other ruthless types roams the corridors of power and create localised stress for groups, sections, areas and which finally percolates to individual people. But more important than that the employee affected by the workplace stress must take action to remove themselves from the cause of the stress or face the consequences of being in a furnace, so to speak, which include broken/faulty/dysfunctional family relationships, lack of performance at work, lack of motivation, unrepressed anger which can all lead to a breakdown, resignation and despair followed by suicide.
The rest of this article is directed to those experiencing fierce levels of workplace stress and how to help yourself. It may save your life. The solution is not to quit suddenly or to suffer in silence and stay. Either course by itself is fraught with danger to your mental health.
How do you know you're experiencing an unacceptable (to you) level of workplace stress?
You only need a basic understanding of
large organisations to start helping yourself. These monsters are
full of very selfish powerful people hoping to use the
organisation's goals for their own ends. If these two coincide all
well and good if not too bad as long as their personal goals are
fulfilled. These people do not care what they need to do (means) to
get to their ends. If that means trampling over you, destroying you
if they have to, making you do things you don't feel is warranted
that's too bad. These people are not necessarily psychopaths
(insane) in fact they are most likely perfectly sane but simply
ruthless. The organisation itself is powerless to help you. The law
is powerless to help you. Nothing can help you except yourself. Now
then that is the setting for the rest of this dialogue about large
organisations and people in them who commit suicide.
You feel completely out of control in your
current situation. You feel lost, frustrated, angry, disillusioned.
You want to act against the perpetrator(s) of the stress but can't
because you lack the courage to do so and doing so (you think
rightly) will only increase your level of anxiety, stress and
despair. The latter is usually the case. When you go up against a
bully you will only come off second best and it will make your
situation and your feelings about yourself even worse. You feel
anxious all the time, can't sleep, can't eat or overeat, you abuse
substances but absolutely nothing you do permanently erases the
despair your feel. The hopelessness of your situation. The fact that
you feel that there is no way out except quitting. When you go up to
meet the dreaded boss causing this despair, all you can do is say
yes to everything he says no matter how unrealistic you think the
goals/tasks are. At the end of the meeting you feel angrier than
ever except now you have unachievable tasks to execute. Tasks that
you know deep down are unachievable. This is part of the root cause
of the despair. The fact that you have been given something to do
that is impossible even if you had adequate support, resources and
understanding. In reality even that level of support, resources and
understanding is missing.
Physically/mentally you have the following
symptoms. 1) A constant burning in your guts, the degree of burn
depends in some way on what is happening externally but actually
runs its own show/course. In other words you cannot control when and
the degree of burning (pain really) you're feeling. You can be close
to the source of the burning and not feel anything or you may be at
home and wake up at 3am and feel you're burning up. 2) Pain more
than pain an agony as if your soul in torment is reflected amplified
many fold into every fibre of your physical being. 3) A low grade
anger with your current situation (anger with yourself really for
feeling the way you do over something which you would probably think
if you were in a sane state of mind is trivial and unimportant). 4)
A shaky hold on reality and a tendency to repeat acts or actions or
put yourself in situations that however temporarily relieve your
symptoms.
You are especially vulnerable to the side
effects of workplace stress if you already suffer from depression or
another anxiety related illness. The addition of workplace stress to
this mix will tip you over the edge. To systemic despair, to a high
degree of hopelessness that can lead to suicide attempts and
eventually to a successful suicide attempt. What is the cause of
this mayhem in your life? This is ultra difficult to answer and
resolve. Your key activity or task or priority is to survive during
this time of hopelessness. You can't enter a healing period unless
you're alive to do it. To stay alive you must be vitally aware of
what you're going through and its effects on your body, mind and
spirit.
You know you're in the vortex of extreme
stress potentially leading to an abyss if you wake every morning
with difficulty, you've lost your shine and smile and no longer feel
the strong urge inside your to delight your customers and your boss
and you've fallen out of love of your workplace. The key to all
this, research has shown, is an unsupportive boss who asks for the
unreasonable most if not all of the time. Most people leave bosses
not organisations but that is too simplistic because it is the
organisation type that beget the types of bosses that endanger the
mental health of their employees. If you have to do something
motivated purely out of fear (of punishment) then the work output
and quality will be very poor indeed. Not just the work output
itself but you feel you are prostituting your powers for no useful
purpose. Unless you're going to please someone then there is no
point doing it at all or even doing it poorly.
If you are experiencing this extreme level of stress, what must (not can) you do about it right now?
You MUST accept that there is nothing you
can do in your current situation that can relieve your level of
stress except leave. You cannot diet or exercise the stress away.
You cannot use alcohol, gambling, tobacco or illegal drugs to take
away the stress. You cannot take mood altering drugs to deal with
the stress. It might work temporarily but it is not a permanent
solution. You cannot use sex to beat it. The bully is not going away
(he owns the world you're perishing in), the situation you are in is
not going away. The company is not going broke and he is not going
to get sacked. The only way out is for you to determine an exit
strategy. Take charge of your fate and leave as soon as the level of
anxiety reaches the level where you start experiencing feelings of
despair and begin to have suicidal thoughts. This is the time to
quit. Immediately. Don't wait a moment longer. Finances, money will
take care of itself when you're well again. But quitting immediately
unleashes a dam of emotion that is almost harder to deal with than
staying.
Leaving of itself is not the full answer to
your problems. In fact your problems are just starting. After
leaving you will start to feel disappointed, angry with yourself for
not making the grade. Your punishing super ego will have a field day
assaulting your sense of self worth. Telling you how weak and
pathetic you are. How useless and stupid you are. How you should
have stood up to them and beat them at their game. What you're
really doing is beating yourself up about what happened in the past
(something you can do nothing about). Telling you what you
should/could have done. Of course at the time all you could do was
leave, quit, resign. The punishing super ego exploits this ambiguity
and time shift to make your life after leaving hell (and for a time
probably even worse than when you were in the cauldron). Expect this
reaction and be prepared for its fury. Every time you quit a
situation, this mechanism comes into operation. A part of you (your
ego) is furious with the part of you that quit and the super ego
acting on behalf of the ego will not let you forget it. You will
need assistance during this phase probably from a psychiatrist to
assist in dealing with the damage caused by quitting (not so much
the damage caused by staying). That is the irony of quitting.
You will feel an unbearable guilt both for feeling the way you do and for it leading to you leaving. For letting the people around you down. For letting yourself down. You know you're better than that but you just couldn't master that particular situation. So you replay that situation over and over (using different scenarios where you were more active or successful) until it drives you insane. This is not helped if the people around you aren't supportive especially parents and partners. See my previous tip for more on this especially unsupportive partners.
It is not enough to have something to go to
when you leave such as another job, studying, holidays. You must
think of your time after the event of leaving as healing time. Think
to yourself you are sick and you are taking sick leave. Seek the
treatment you need before committing to your next venture. The next
venture itself is not the healing. The healing needs to be occurring
before you move on to the next thing. If you just move on, then
there is a very high likelihood that this will occur again and again
wherever you move.
Root cause analysis. There is no point
recovering from a healing period only to go to a new situation that
creates the same feelings of despair after a time there. Therefore
understand your psyche and what works for it. For example you might
be very creative and innovative and might not be suited to a role
which is analytical and quantitative. Certain type of jobs attract
certain types of managers and bosses. If you're allergic to constant
and unjustified criticism (as most of us are), don't put yourself in
a job where this is likely to occur. It is a fact of life that if
you're brilliant at what you do, some managers will support and
others won't support you (because they're afraid your talent will
undermine their position). These insanely jealous managers will
expose to a torrent of constant and unjustified criticism until you
crack and your performance degrades and no longer threatens them.
The whole purpose of this 'warped' management style is to reduce the
threat of great performers by burying them in work (resulting from
unjustified criticism) that will distract and detract them from
performing brilliantly.
If you are brilliant then you deserve your
own company, your own business, your own brand. You deserve this,
your talent deserves no less. Develop the business plan that will
meet your goals. There are great opportunities out there you need to
find them and exploit them. The problem in a sense is the framework
you've chosen to showcase your talent is too small. There is no or
not enough scope for it. You're hitting your head against a ceiling
that's been put there to segment you with the real stuff that is
going on. When you feel that nudge or collision whichever it is, it
is time to either move on to another job (where you might nudge it
again) or branch out on your own and see where that leads you.
What can life coaching do to help you?
Life coaching is about identifying and developing your hidden potential. In essence it's about helping you make changes to your life that will result in outcomes that will satisfy your need for money, warmth, shelter and relationship. But in a way that is sustainable and doing this in a very high stress environment is not sustainable. So a life coach will work with you to identify what else you're good at besides what it is you're doing at the moment that is killing you. A life coach will work with you to bring out these talents and ideas to fruition which will then enable you to make the major change in your life to your preferred lifestyle.
About Gilbert Labour
Mr Labour has recently completed a new book Corporate Psychopathy - Death in the Workplace. This resource provides a key starting point for
people working in corporate environments who are suffering under the
regime of an out of control psychopath. It provides robust proven
strategies for overcoming the mental and physical problems caused by
a psychopath. This book is available direct from Mr Labour for
$29.95 plus postage and handling. In addition for each book sold, $5
will be going to Coaches with Borders for developing work and life
skills for the poor in Mauritius.
Mr Labour is a strategist, consultant,
adviser, speaker and presenter on corporate restructuring,
psychopathy in the workplace, life and executive coaching, project
and program management, Six Sigma and Lean process improvement.
He combines all these skills in a unique
combination, utilising Six Sigma and project management, to provide
modern enlightened companies with truly innovative advice that will
create a sustainable competitive advantage. Mr Labour exercises his
skills and influence with compassion and deep understanding of the
human condition especially where restructures result in overwhelming
change and job loss.
He specialises in the following industries:
legal and accountancy, telecommunications, transportation and
aviation, banking and finance, insurance, government, IT and
outsourcing and believes that his experience in these verticals is
applicable across all industries, countries, languages, cultures and
businesses generally. He has 30 years corporate experience in these
industries.
Every single industry he specialises in
(telcos, aviation, retail banking, insurance, outsourcing) faces
fundamental challenges to continued survival and prosperity in the
21st Century and Mr Labour is well placed to provide a
multi-disciplinary approach to uncovering insights for competitive
advantage.
He sees the management of strategic,
compliance and operational risk as one of the key issues facing
executive managers on a daily basis. But not all companies can take
advantage of formal Basel II and Sarbannes-Oxley (SOX) governance
models.
For those companies that are not in the
financial industry but still require strong governance around the
management of operational risk, Mr Labour is an expert on creating
strategies for managing operational risk supported by strong
programme management structures to ensure compliance.</>
He has been extensively involved in process
improvement initiatives within project and production environments.
He has delivered Six Sigma Green and Black Belt process improvement
programs that provide bottom line improvement whilst maintaining and
enhancing employee morale.
He also owns and runs one of the world's
most comprehensive web resources on the topic of life and executive
coaching containing over 1500 pages of advice and more than 250
articles on life and executive coaching. He has also been quoted in
learned papers, newspaper and magazine articles.
He has written a book on life coaching
which provides an introduction to life coaching for the general
public. He has also written a book on executive coaching, Executive
Coaching for Process Improvement Excellence, that provides daily
insights for top managers looking to succeed in today's fast paced
environment.
He is also a pioneer in the field of coaching and project management having presented a landmark paper on this topic at PMISA 2004 (World Conference on Project Management) in South Africa in May, 04. His paper entitled Sane Project Management, a Life and Executive Coaching Approach has created both a new field in project
management and a new area of interest and research for coaching and
coaches around the world.
For PMISA 2006 (World Conference on Project Management) he has written a paper entitled Project Management and Six Sigma - a convergent and divergent model for solving business problems. He seeks to
develop a theoretical and practical model to extract readily
applicable business approaches from both divergence and convergence
of these two disciplines.
He will explore whether coaching can
facilitate the extraction of some of the benefits of this
convergence? This will be continuing an exploration of the
connection between coaching and project management that he first
developed and presented at PMISA 2004.
Mr Labour acknowledges that in today's
highly competitive and rapidly changing business environment, a busy
consultant, life coach or executive coach must evince a compelling
value proposition, as much for himself as for his product and
service.
His unique value proposition is bringing to
bear, on difficult even intractable business problems, a brilliant
mix of both quantitative and qualitative approaches, embracing Six
Sigma, Lean, project management, executive coaching, operational and
line management.
He has a refreshing engaging and vibrant
perspective on life and business in the corporate world. He is able
to engage with any company in the world, within his industry
expertise and beyond, and provide an assessment of the issues and
problems that management suspects exists. He does this on a
pro-active basis and confidentially.
He is also able to execute or be involved
in the execution of any recommendations resulting from these
engagements. He has previously managed large programs of work
involving major restructuring, outsourcing and downsizing.
He forecasts a greater demand for people
with his unique blend of skills in the future especially where
established, staid inefficient companies in otherwise dynamic
industries face head-on competition from more efficient home grown
companies and those companies thriving in the tiger economies of
China and India with their vast pool of cheap, educated and trained
local talent.
Executive Coaching Tips and Techniques No. 87
Heaven in hell, hell in heaven
Know the client's needs and fill it without the client missing a beat.
Sometimes you need to go thru hell to know
the heaven on the other side. The harder the hell the more you'll
appreciate the other side. The problem is not this fact but how to
engineer the transition from hell to heaven which needs lots of
energy, foresight, planning and initiative when you're actually
suffering a great deal from your current situation and all your
energy is directed to surviving (just) that situation. That is the
dilemma of living in a nightmare. How to make the right exit moves
(now) that will pay off when you make it (later). Not just any old
move but one which is strategic for your time in life and the cycle
you're in. You will face many problems before you can make the
transition.
The people closest to you may not
necessarily support your transition strategy (that is, if you share
it with them). In my experience most people closest to you prefer
the status quo and hate change. Not sure why that is. Maybe people
get used to seeing you in a certain way doing certain similar things
on a regular basis. You kind of become like a clock to them and they
time their lives according to your rhythm. They hate the breaking of
that rhythm, that certainty. Every time in my life when I've wanted
to change jobs or career strategy I've met vehement resistance along
the lines of: better the devil you know or it's a big scary world
out there you may not find another job no matter how low and mean.
My advice is to ignore this feedback/advice. If your heart is true
and you believe in what it is telling you, follow it. Even if the
whole world is against you and you believe your path follow it.
Conquer your own fear of the change. Just
like others around you who are feeling the impact of the proposed
change. So you will also feel the pain/loss of leaving something you
have for something with only the possibility of having something
else, perhaps not even as good as what you have currently. Fear
makes you stay when you should go or even go when you should stay.
Know the difference between the fear that makes you flee and the
fear that makes you stay when you shouldn't. Trust the latter but
knowing the difference between the two will mean the difference
between success and failure in your new transition. But that is not
enough. It is only when the desire for change is stronger than the
fear that makes you stay when you really shouldn't that the way is
clear for you to move.
Put some smarts and thought around the
move. It is called a strategy because it needs planning and needs to
cover all the following areas: study, finance, new job opportunities
and your new earning power, building a client base if that is what
you new role entails, networking in your new industry and that means
socialising with and developing strong relationships with potential
customers/clients/employees/partners, developing a strong network of
colleagues and associates.
Once your strategy is in place, forget risk
management just go for it and don't stop until you have reached your
first goal which could be qualifying in your new field. That is hard
enough but the next step is harder. Working in the industry and
developing new ways of talking, being, relating and servicing.
Provide an end to end service for your
particular industry and service those clients better than they have
ever been serviced before and keep on doing it for as long as you
need their custom/business. Ensure you have systems in place to
track your business (even if it is only a simple spreadsheet). There
are lots of business templates out there for use.
Be the best you can be technically in your
field and be known for your excellence, drive, energy, direction,
nous and savoir faire. Know the client's needs before he does and
meet it before he even realises he has a need. Fill it without the
client missing a beat. Be in the right place at the right time and
meet the client's next expectation (it is assumed you meet the
current expectations superbly) easily. You must combine technical
brilliance in your field with almost a sixth sense for what your
market, your client needs most.
Don't just be client focused for a small
business be client obsessed. Think about the needs of the
client/customer 24/7 and when you get great service/product ideas
brainstorm them and if the meet your criteria execute on them
brilliantly.
About Gilbert Labour
Mr Labour has recently completed a new book Corporate Psychopathy - Death in the Workplace. This resource provides a key starting point for
people working in corporate environments who are suffering under the
regime of an out of control psychopath. It provides robust proven
strategies for overcoming the mental and physical problems caused by
a psychopath. This book is available direct from Mr Labour for
$29.95 plus postage and handling. In addition for each book sold, $5
will be going to Coaches with Borders for developing work and life
skills for the poor in Mauritius.
Mr Labour is a strategist, consultant,
adviser, speaker and presenter on corporate restructuring,
psychopathy in the workplace, life and executive coaching, project
and program management, Six Sigma and Lean process improvement.
He combines all these skills in a unique
combination, utilising Six Sigma and project management, to provide
modern enlightened companies with truly innovative advice that will
create a sustainable competitive advantage. Mr Labour exercises his
skills and influence with compassion and deep understanding of the
human condition especially where restructures result in overwhelming
change and job loss.
He specialises in the following industries:
legal and accountancy, telecommunications, transportation and
aviation, banking and finance, insurance, government, IT and
outsourcing and believes that his experience in these verticals is
applicable across all industries, countries, languages, cultures and
businesses generally. He has 30 years corporate experience in these
industries.
Every single industry he specialises in
(telcos, aviation, retail banking, insurance, outsourcing) faces
fundamental challenges to continued survival and prosperity in the
21st Century and Mr Labour is well placed to provide a
multi-disciplinary approach to uncovering insights for competitive
advantage.
He sees the management of strategic,
compliance and operational risk as one of the key issues facing
executive managers on a daily basis. But not all companies can take
advantage of formal Basel II and Sarbannes-Oxley (SOX) governance
models.
For those companies that are not in the
financial industry but still require strong governance around the
management of operational risk, Mr Labour is an expert on creating
strategies for managing operational risk supported by strong
programme management structures to ensure compliance.</>
He has been extensively involved in process
improvement initiatives within project and production environments.
He has delivered Six Sigma Green and Black Belt process improvement
programs that provide bottom line improvement whilst maintaining and
enhancing employee morale.
He also owns and runs one of the world's
most comprehensive web resources on the topic of life and executive
coaching containing over 1500 pages of advice and more than 250
articles on life and executive coaching. He has also been quoted in
learned papers, newspaper and magazine articles.
He has written a book on life coaching
which provides an introduction to life coaching for the general
public. He has also written a book on executive coaching, Executive
Coaching for Process Improvement Excellence, that provides daily
insights for top managers looking to succeed in today's fast paced
environment.
He is also a pioneer in the field of coaching and project management having presented a landmark paper on this topic at PMISA 2004 (World Conference on Project Management) in South Africa in May, 04. His paper entitled Sane Project Management, a Life and Executive Coaching Approach has created both a new field in project
management and a new area of interest and research for coaching and
coaches around the world.
For PMISA 2006 (World Conference on Project Management) he has written a paper entitled Project Management and Six Sigma - a convergent and divergent model for solving business problems. He seeks to
develop a theoretical and practical model to extract readily
applicable business approaches from both divergence and convergence
of these two disciplines.
He will explore whether coaching can
facilitate the extraction of some of the benefits of this
convergence? This will be continuing an exploration of the
connection between coaching and project management that he first
developed and presented at PMISA 2004.
Mr Labour acknowledges that in today's
highly competitive and rapidly changing business environment, a busy
consultant, life coach or executive coach must evince a compelling
value proposition, as much for himself as for his product and
service.
His unique value proposition is bringing to
bear, on difficult even intractable business problems, a brilliant
mix of both quantitative and qualitative approaches, embracing Six
Sigma, Lean, project management, executive coaching, operational and
line management.
He has a refreshing engaging and vibrant
perspective on life and business in the corporate world. He is able
to engage with any company in the world, within his industry
expertise and beyond, and provide an assessment of the issues and
problems that management suspects exists. He does this on a
pro-active basis and confidentially.
He is also able to execute or be involved
in the execution of any recommendations resulting from these
engagements. He has previously managed large programs of work
involving major restructuring, outsourcing and downsizing.
He forecasts a greater demand for people
with his unique blend of skills in the future especially where
established, staid inefficient companies in otherwise dynamic
industries face head-on competition from more efficient home grown
companies and those companies thriving in the tiger economies of
China and India with their vast pool of cheap, educated and trained
local talent.
Executive Coaching Tips and Techniques No. 86
Goals with a psychopathic manager or partner.
Psychopathic partnership: the unexpected is
the norm and the norm unexpected
Every day that you're not nearer to your goal is a day away from your goal. Every day that dawns when you're not working on your goal is a day wasted and further away from your goal. Eventually the gap will be so large you'll either give up or you'll be unable to do it for a number of reasons: other commitments, money, age, motivation, fitness level. When you give up on the goal, you die a little.
When I mean goal I mean a life changing event that will take place once the goal is achieved. What does it take to set and execute life changing goals?
Necessity. You're forced to make the
change. Having a psychopath as a manager or partner. Psychopaths are
natural born change agents. You have to thank them for making you
take the risk and actually change course. To do something new.
Change is always scary and ideally your change should be self
originated but sometimes somebody comes along who is so stuffed up
themselves that they unwittingly lead you to something new and
better. Without their negative influence you would still be coasting
along within your comfort zone.
Desire or want to make the change. There is
a tenuous nexus between the desire and reality. People only change
if they're forced to change otherwise everyone prefers to live a
quiet uninterrupted life. You may want to make a change because you
want to do more with your body: take part in sport, run with the
hares, go bush walking, look good.
Ability to make the change. That is all the
circumstances are right in a particular moment in time for you to
make the switch. In actual fact there is no such coincidence in
life. The particular moment in time must be engineered, must be
planned, must be created otherwise there is no opportunity only
missed chances. If you're luck every now and then you'll be in a
groove and everything you do is magical. Take advantage of one of
those opportunities to put in place the machinery that will allow
you to change.
A desire for growth and renewal. Your
current job or relationship or other personal circumstance no longer
provides you with the opportunities for growth that they perhaps
formerly provided. In reality it is a question of: did the job stop
growing or did you? As most people identify closely with their job
that is really asking the question: why did you stop growing within
the context of that particular job? There is no easy answer to why
people stop growing and changing. Fear, disappointment, failure,
repeated mistakes may have something to do with it. Being with a
psychopathic partner or manager is good enough reason to stop
growing.
Growth is only possible in an environment
where your manager or partner supports and assists you
appropriately. Psychopathic managers kill growth in organisations
because they are always looking for ways to catch you out rather
than ways for working collaboratively with you for a better outcome.
They instill fear and terror in their people. There is no raison
d'etre behind this modus operandi. Why they do it is not known to
science or art but can only be guessed at. In reality no one knows
the root cause of psychopathy and whether it is ingrained or learned
or as a reaction to something like being rejected early in life.
Whatever the cause, it results in very painful experiences and
lessons for those exposed to its fury. Is the fury the result of the
rejection? Someone has to pay and that someone is you? Goals with a
psychopathic manager is a roller coaster ride of ups and down and
usually more ups than down.
Wherever it is found psychopathy is evil.
It is a force for destructive change not constructive growth.
Psychopathy is anathema to innovation, creativity and new ideas. For
those to flourish you need an open collaborative sharing environment
where ideas are interchanged and can live till either they die, are
given new life and take on a life of their own. All this takes time
and a very exceptional manager who understands the dynamics of
creativity in a corporate setting.
Psychopathic managers cannot tolerate the
merest hint of disagreement with their warped doctrinaire views
which is not based on real knowledge of the subject at hand but
their own prejudices and knowledge gaps. They fear excellence and
talent. The merest sign of either throws them into paroxysms of
jealousies and the target for these jealousies is made to feel
inadequate, incomplete, useless and ineffective. The worst
psychopaths target the finest minds in their organisations for
destruction and annihilation. Which is strange because it is the
finest minds that have the delicacy of soul and trust that
psychopaths find easy to mindlessly crush.
Be definition psychopaths cannot be hurt
not in the conventional emotional sense. There is no higher internal
moral and ethical authority to go to. There is no higher judge in
equity that ameliorates the actions of the psychopath. You get the
destructive power raw pure and simple and virulent. What they do
feel is material imbalance when it is not in their favour, they
really feel oppressed by beauty when they're ugly, by talent when
they're without talent, by ambition when they have none, by
innovation and creativity when they have none (except to destroy
it). In short the driving force for psychopathy is to seek and
destroy all those who are more gifted than them in all various kinds
of material (like beauty) and spiritual areas (like nobility and
generosity of mind).
It is a terrible disease to own when it is
discovered by your partner or the people who work for you but there
is nothing the psychopath can do about it. It is an affliction for
life with no diagnosis, cure or prognosis and for them no symptoms.
For them psychopathy or the way they feel is normal. The only thing
normal sane people can do in the face of psychopathy (if they want
to remain that way) is to flee as fast as their little legs will
carry them. There are other environments out there without
psychopathy.
In my recent book - Corporate Psychopathy
Death in the Workplace - I wrote that psychopathy was a necessary
evil in organisations because from the organisational point of view
it was a force for change and renewal. That is still a correct
assertion in my view but from the point of view of the victims of a
psychopath that is little consolation. The organisation prospers
because it is renewed but the little people die and wither away on
the vine unless they leave. Perhaps in the overall scheme of things
they were meant to leave.
A psychopathic partner kills all growth in
a relationship without which love cannot renew itself. It chokes the
flow of human emotion and leads to some pretty strange and weird
couple behavior. A relationship where one partner is psychopathic is
one where terror rules, where fear reigns supreme, where the
unexpected is the norm and the norm unexpected. The psychopathic
partner takes the relationship into uncharted dangerous waters with
their frequent 'moody' outbursts or even worse their moody silences.
Brooding, leaden, heavy.
There is no future with a psychopathic partner or manager. It is simply inconceivable to live your life with a person who will pummel you at every opportunity and even if there is no opportunity they will manufacture one just to bring you down a peg or two. It is difficult for anyone who has not experienced psychopathy to take in these words but the feeling and emotion felt by the victim is genuine and can lead to depression even suicides.
About Gilbert Labour
Mr Labour has recently completed a new book Corporate Psychopathy - Death in the Workplace. This resource provides a key starting point for
people working in corporate environments who are suffering under the
regime of an out of control psychopath. It provides robust proven
strategies for overcoming the mental and physical problems caused by
a psychopath. This book is available direct from Mr Labour for
$29.95 plus postage and handling. In addition for each book sold, $5
will be going to Coaches with Borders for developing work and life
skills for the poor in Mauritius.
Mr Labour is a strategist, consultant,
adviser, speaker and presenter on corporate restructuring,
psychopathy in the workplace, life and executive coaching, project
and program management, Six Sigma and Lean process improvement.
He combines all these skills in a unique
combination, utilising Six Sigma and project management, to provide
modern enlightened companies with truly innovative advice that will
create a sustainable competitive advantage. Mr Labour exercises his
skills and influence with compassion and deep understanding of the
human condition especially where restructures result in overwhelming
change and job loss.
He specialises in the following industries:
legal and accountancy, telecommunications, transportation and
aviation, banking and finance, insurance, government, IT and
outsourcing and believes that his experience in these verticals is
applicable across all industries, countries, languages, cultures and
businesses generally. He has 30 years corporate experience in these
industries.
Every single industry he specialises in
(telcos, aviation, retail banking, insurance, outsourcing) faces
fundamental challenges to continued survival and prosperity in the
21st Century and Mr Labour is well placed to provide a
multi-disciplinary approach to uncovering insights for competitive
advantage.
He sees the management of strategic,
compliance and operational risk as one of the key issues facing
executive managers on a daily basis. But not all companies can take
advantage of formal Basel II and Sarbannes-Oxley (SOX) governance
models.
For those companies that are not in the
financial industry but still require strong governance around the
management of operational risk, Mr Labour is an expert on creating
strategies for managing operational risk supported by strong
programme management structures to ensure compliance.</>
He has been extensively involved in process
improvement initiatives within project and production environments.
He has delivered Six Sigma Green and Black Belt process improvement
programs that provide bottom line improvement whilst maintaining and
enhancing employee morale.
He also owns and runs one of the world's
most comprehensive web resources on the topic of life and executive
coaching containing over 1500 pages of advice and more than 250
articles on life and executive coaching. He has also been quoted in
learned papers, newspaper and magazine articles.
He has written a book on life coaching
which provides an introduction to life coaching for the general
public. He has also written a book on executive coaching, Executive
Coaching for Process Improvement Excellence, that provides daily
insights for top managers looking to succeed in today's fast paced
environment.
He is also a pioneer in the field of coaching and project management having presented a landmark paper on this topic at PMISA 2004 (World Conference on Project Management) in South Africa in May, 04. His paper entitled Sane Project Management, a Life and Executive Coaching Approach has created both a new field in project
management and a new area of interest and research for coaching and
coaches around the world.
For PMISA 2006 (World Conference on Project Management) he has written a paper entitled Project Management and Six Sigma - a convergent and divergent model for solving business problems. He seeks to
develop a theoretical and practical model to extract readily
applicable business approaches from both divergence and convergence
of these two disciplines.
He will explore whether coaching can
facilitate the extraction of some of the benefits of this
convergence? This will be continuing an exploration of the
connection between coaching and project management that he first
developed and presented at PMISA 2004.
Mr Labour acknowledges that in today's
highly competitive and rapidly changing business environment, a busy
consultant, life coach or executive coach must evince a compelling
value proposition, as much for himself as for his product and
service.
His unique value proposition is bringing to
bear, on difficult even intractable business problems, a brilliant
mix of both quantitative and qualitative approaches, embracing Six
Sigma, Lean, project management, executive coaching, operational and
line management.
He has a refreshing engaging and vibrant
perspective on life and business in the corporate world. He is able
to engage with any company in the world, within his industry
expertise and beyond, and provide an assessment of the issues and
problems that management suspects exists. He does this on a
pro-active basis and confidentially.
He is also able to execute or be involved
in the execution of any recommendations resulting from these
engagements. He has previously managed large programs of work
involving major restructuring, outsourcing and downsizing.
He forecasts a greater demand for people
with his unique blend of skills in the future especially where
established, staid inefficient companies in otherwise dynamic
industries face head-on competition from more efficient home grown
companies and those companies thriving in the tiger economies of
China and India with their vast pool of cheap, educated and trained
local talent.
Executive Coaching Tips and Techniques No. 85
Integrity
Is there such a thing as integrity in a
corporate environment? I have come across it in its pure form very
rarely. It seems that integrity and money just don't seem to mix
real well. I find integrity gets in the way of doing business. As a
buyer you expect to be overcharged and as a seller you are expected
to overcharge the buyer. So where exactly is the role of integrity
in all this? Nowhere. I have been in plenty of organisations that
have lied about current situations, events, the balance sheet,
product development. Business is as dirty as politics probably more
so because money corrupts more than power.
Integrity and honesty is uncomfortable,
inconvenient and causes more stress than is necessary. It besmirches
people's reputations, careers and family life. All for what? A
little bit more when it could have been less and a little less when
it could have been more. For example if you have a particularly
virulent form of cancer, the first thing the doctor will ask your
family is 'how will he take it? If the answer is poorly then the
doctor will lie to you subtly by providing more hope than is
warranted or making the situation less dangerous than it really is.
Poor corporate performance
To know poor performance is to know great performance and vice versa. They complement each other. Each needs the other to exist. One only sees the true worth the value of great performance when it is contrasted with poor performance.
Everyday in my corporate life I see examples of poor performance and examples of great performance. This article is inspired by two such performances seen in the one day.
Great performance
A seamless intelligence totally in the space of the conversation/topic/subject at hand. Saying very little but speaking volumes. Every contribution is absolutely spot on and to the point and guiding the conversation one way, the right way. In a group of 10 fairly intelligent people in a meeting one stood out above all others. How? He asked the right questions at the right time. He was able to interpret the answers for what they were. In other words he read the message as well as the medium. He contributed beautifully to the meeting, oozed self-confidence, had an infectious laugh and really knowing vibrant expressive eyes. He was a true leader charismatic, good looking and fit and healthy shiny even. That is great performance. Something that comes from within and without but not knowing what contributed what to the mix. An invisible mesh of natural warmth and attractiveness with no doubt learnt skills. Why did this person have this reaction on me? I think because they shone like a beacon in a room full of dead zombies. Being in their presence left you wanting to hear more from them. A bit like a poetry teacher (true story) who had TS Eliot in their class. The teacher said something like he never said anything but when he did my god it was sharp and ultra perceptive.
Poor performance
Not in command of the material in their space much less the meeting. Not a commanding presence. Physically a weak insignificant presence. Not realising people in corporate environments hate only one thing worse than work and that is responsibility. They like to be led. So lead them but do so in a way that makes sense for them and represents their ways, their views, their weaknesses, their needs and wants. Running the meeting but terribly unsure of what everybody is thinking. Great performers do their homework and either know what people are thinking or work behind the scenes to bring people around to think the way they want them to (before the meeting). This is not unethical it is just corporate reality and anybody who denies it happens is a liar. It happens all the time in politics probably in every organisation man has ever created. It is the politics of power which has no ethics except the rule: win whatever it takes. Not poor intellectual ability but an ineffective marshalling of the powers that do exist. Working to their limitations not their strengths. Lacks confidence. Poor technically. Unable to manage end to end requiring constant assistance and guidance. Escalates when the person escalating to can't do anything beyond what they could have done themselves. Not tough enough with their suppliers. When there are so many questions doesn't have too many answers. When people who work with the poor performer find out about their shortcomings, there is disappointment and anger and they are usually sacked.
What to do if you consider yourself a poor performer?
I will assume you are reasonably intelligent but have problems performing in a corporate environment. If that assumption is not correct there is no point moving forward. That is a pre-requisite for success. Being a top performer in a corporate environment is not for everybody all the time. In other words even if you are a top performer it won't last forever and you must plan for it to end one day.
Develop outstanding verbal communications
skills. Take classes if you have to. If you speak with a hard to
understand accent ditch it by taking elocution classes. It will pay
for itself many times over. I will assume you already have
outstanding written communications skills. Both have to be the best
they can be because they will degrade as the pressure and stress of
a corporate environment increases. If it is already poor, it will
only get poorer.
Really know your technical and professional
environment that you work in and that your particular profession
operates in. Don't bother playing soccer unless you have had
coaching. Similarly don't venture there unless properly directed,
coached and mentored. Don't make the mistake of giving yourself
knowledge and experience you don't have at the interview (you will
be found out) unless you're a genius.
Develop a persona that is always relaxed, charming, personable and
comfortable to be around. Learn acting if you have to. Acting it
works just as well but only if you're a good actor. You can
absolutely abhor the people you work with and for but no one will
suspect it if you are always going round with a smile and a laugh.
This persona will come under pressure during moments of stress so
make sure it is deeply ingrained and fixed tightly. If success
matters you that much you will change yourself to suit. This is hard
to keep up.
Don't be a loner unless you are truly
exceptional in what you do in which case they will tolerate you for
your brilliance. Just. But it is preferable to be in the
group/circle than being brilliant. If you had to choose. Loners
don't do well in corporate environments generally. Make friends use
your false persona to charm people. Even if you feel terribly
stressed and under pressure make time for people, make time for
lunch. Always find an excuse to have coffee with someone or other.
You never know a minnow now may become a whale later.
Work out every single day. You will need to
be in peak physical condition to do the mental things you need to
do. To keep the supreme calm you need under pressure and still
perform. For some people the problem is not inability to perform but
inability to perform under great, constant and intense pressure. But
then that is still poor performance. You may need a program of
fitness, coping mechanisms, rituals and prescription drugs to keep
you in the game. The point is if being in the game is worth that
much to you, then you have to do what it takes. But there is a limit
to how much you can endure something you may not be totally suited
for.
Bottom line. If you're struggling to keep
up, finds way to cope or leave. If you stay only death awaits you.
The stress will kill you.
About Gilbert Labour
Mr Labour has recently completed a new book Corporate Psychopathy - Death in the Workplace. This resource provides a key starting point for
people working in corporate environments who are suffering under the
regime of an out of control psychopath. It provides robust proven
strategies for overcoming the mental and physical problems caused by
a psychopath. This book is available direct from Mr Labour for
$29.95 plus postage and handling. In addition for each book sold, $5
will be going to Coaches with Borders for developing work and life
skills for the poor in Mauritius.
Mr Labour is a strategist, consultant,
adviser, speaker and presenter on corporate restructuring,
psychopathy in the workplace, life and executive coaching, project
and program management, Six Sigma and Lean process improvement.
He combines all these skills in a unique
combination, utilising Six Sigma and project management, to provide
modern enlightened companies with truly innovative advice that will
create a sustainable competitive advantage. Mr Labour exercises his
skills and influence with compassion and deep understanding of the
human condition especially where restructures result in overwhelming
change and job loss.
He specialises in the following industries:
legal and accountancy, telecommunications, transportation and
aviation, banking and finance, insurance, government, IT and
outsourcing and believes that his experience in these verticals is
applicable across all industries, countries, languages, cultures and
businesses generally. He has 30 years corporate experience in these
industries.
Every single industry he specialises in
(telcos, aviation, retail banking, insurance, outsourcing) faces
fundamental challenges to continued survival and prosperity in the
21st Century and Mr Labour is well placed to provide a
multi-disciplinary approach to uncovering insights for competitive
advantage.
He sees the management of strategic,
compliance and operational risk as one of the key issues facing
executive managers on a daily basis. But not all companies can take
advantage of formal Basel II and Sarbannes-Oxley (SOX) governance
models.
For those companies that are not in the
financial industry but still require strong governance around the
management of operational risk, Mr Labour is an expert on creating
strategies for managing operational risk supported by strong
programme management structures to ensure compliance.</>
He has been extensively involved in process
improvement initiatives within project and production environments.
He has delivered Six Sigma Green and Black Belt process improvement
programs that provide bottom line improvement whilst maintaining and
enhancing employee morale.
He also owns and runs one of the world's
most comprehensive web resources on the topic of life and executive
coaching containing over 1500 pages of advice and more than 250
articles on life and executive coaching. He has also been quoted in
learned papers, newspaper and magazine articles.
He has written a book on life coaching
which provides an introduction to life coaching for the general
public. He has also written a book on executive coaching, Executive
Coaching for Process Improvement Excellence, that provides daily
insights for top managers looking to succeed in today's fast paced
environment.
He is also a pioneer in the field of coaching and project management having presented a landmark paper on this topic at PMISA 2004 (World Conference on Project Management) in South Africa in May, 04. His paper entitled Sane Project Management, a Life and Executive Coaching Approach has created both a new field in project
management and a new area of interest and research for coaching and
coaches around the world.
For PMISA 2006 (World Conference on Project Management) he has written a paper entitled Project Management and Six Sigma - a convergent and divergent model for solving business problems. He seeks to
develop a theoretical and practical model to extract readily
applicable business approaches from both divergence and convergence
of these two disciplines.
He will explore whether coaching can
facilitate the extraction of some of the benefits of this
convergence? This will be continuing an exploration of the
connection between coaching and project management that he first
developed and presented at PMISA 2004.
Mr Labour acknowledges that in today's
highly competitive and rapidly changing business environment, a busy
consultant, life coach or executive coach must evince a compelling
value proposition, as much for himself as for his product and
service.
His unique value proposition is bringing to
bear, on difficult even intractable business problems, a brilliant
mix of both quantitative and qualitative approaches, embracing Six
Sigma, Lean, project management, executive coaching, operational and
line management.
He has a refreshing engaging and vibrant
perspective on life and business in the corporate world. He is able
to engage with any company in the world, within his industry
expertise and beyond, and provide an assessment of the issues and
problems that management suspects exists. He does this on a
pro-active basis and confidentially.
He is also able to execute or be involved
in the execution of any recommendations resulting from these
engagements. He has previously managed large programs of work
involving major restructuring, outsourcing and downsizing.
He forecasts a greater demand for people
with his unique blend of skills in the future especially where
established, staid inefficient companies in otherwise dynamic
industries face head-on competition from more efficient home grown
companies and those companies thriving in the tiger economies of
China and India with their vast pool of cheap, educated and trained
local talent.
Executive Coaching Tips and Techniques No. 84
Facing up to workplace bullies
Psychopathy in the raw where psychopathy hits the road
As long as you run away from the problem, the problem will coming running to find you again and again
It takes the greatest courage to face up to
a workplace bully. Most people agonise over it for days, weeks,
months, years even but still they do nothing fearing the
consequences. That is, dismissal or demotion or forcible resignation
or humiliation.
They are probably also very cognizant of
the negative consequences of stewing over the problem: stress,
anxiety, high blood pressure, feeling rotten all the time leading to
increased rates of cancer, heart attacks and strokes. Cognizant in
an emotional and physical sense of the consequences.
In other words doing nothing is not an
option but that something is so terrifying that doing nothing by
comparison seems the better option even if it leads to a heart
attack, depression, anxiety or panic attacks.
Only someone who has faced a workplace
bully (like myself) can write about how to deal with it. If any
academics not having known the inner emotional turmoil write about
it, well their advice is pretty nigh useless. Most people prefer not
to face that person and suffer in silence or quit. These are the two
most frequent options used by people. But there is a third option.
Facing the bully
The inevitable consequence of facing up to
a workplace bully is at some time down the track you will be paid
back for your treachery. That is the workplace bully will have their
revenge. That is going to happen no matter what. If what you're
going through now doing nothing is bad and doing something about it
will lead to something bad then the option is clear. Either way you
go is bad so you might as well go for the doing something option.
There is another reason why you should face
the bully. It is a liberating almost cathartic experience. It purges
the negative emotions. The fear lessens, the anxiety lessens, the
stress lessens to be replaced by a relative calm even though you
have had it out with him and in theory he may have sacked you or
threatened to sack you or otherwise put your job in jeopardy. That
is well worth the sense of relief, pleasure even at releasing
yourself from the emotional clutches of the madman.
If you think after your one on one that
your sense of insecurity has increased think again. It's not yours
that has but the psychopath's who is not used to being confronted
about his own inadequacies. In fact your sense of insecurity strong
before would be the same if you hadn't faced him. After that
confrontation that feeling weakens not because there is less of a
likelihood of losing your job (in fact there is probably more) but
because you have lanced a pus filled emotional boil. Which is ironic
really. You feel better even though you are probably more in danger
of losing your job than before. The emotional relief overpowers the
financial pain or humiliation (temporary) you may feel by losing
your job.
The major benefit of facing up to a workplace bully no matter how frightening the thought is twofold. Firstly it provides you with the knowledge that you did it. You finally faced up to your fears for the first time perhaps and survived. Not only survived but renewed with new energy with strength whilst at the same time regaining your humor, your self confidence and your mojo. That is priceless. Money can't buy that relief. Nothing can. The price of that relief must be paid for in the hard currency of courage.
Secondly it gives you the experience to
face another one in the future as it will inevitably occur in your
next job. You will also realise that after facing up to a workplace
bully your position there is untenable in the medium to long term.
In other words, there is a strong possibility that you will have
probably have to leave anyway. But the glorious thing about leaving
after faced the bully is that you leave with your head held high and
held in the highest respect by your work colleagues.
How should the approach to the bully be
made? Just ask him for a chat. Not over a coffee that is too chummy.
Not in the office that is his playground where he feels most
powerful. Ask him to go for a walk along the street outside the
office. Be polite, be courteous, have examples of his inconsistent
behaviour, examples of where he is not supporting you, of where he
is placing the financial interests of your company in jeopardy. Be
evidential whilst still being true to your feelings. This is not a
court of law. Laws of evidence do not apply. Don't forget you are
dealing with a psychopath so it is not a court of emotion per se but
use as necessary like salt to flavor your case.
This is your chance to have your say. Not everything you say must be backed by evidence or fact because part of what you're feeling is just that and you must put that out there. Start the conversation by saying you have the utmost respect and admiration for the work they're doing and you're showing them that respect by going straight to them rather than over their heads (which in theory you can or could still do). Then present your case. There is no need for an outcome that is satisfactory to you, all that is needed is for you to air your grievances. That's it. If you play your cards extremely intelligently you should be able to get an outcome that is satisfactory to you for example perhaps he may give you more time to do something or more resources.
Suffering in silence
Mental self torture. This is not an option
at all. If an option at all it is a do nothing option. Wait and see
what happens. Well nothing is going to happen except that it can
only do more and more harm to your psyche the longer you do nothing.
If that is going to be your modus operandi then it is preferable if
you quit. At least quitting takes you away from the source of the
problem (temporarily) but it does not do the one thing that facing
up to the bully gives you: the experience, the wisdom, the strength,
the courage to face another one in your next and your next job. As
long as you run away from the problem, the problem will coming
running to find you.
Quitting
Just not an option in the medium to long term. Only a short term option with mental health consequences in the short term such as guilt (for leaving your family without a breadwinner), guilt because you left your work colleagues in the lurch with probably unfinished projects, anger, rage, homicidal thoughts. Quitting is never an option because once these short term consequences are resolved you are still left with a problem. You faced a problem and you couldn't deal with it.
Going over his head
Almost always fatal to the victim of
psychopathy. It is always best to go straight to the person causing
the problems to resolve them rather than their boss. That way your
respect level is way high so that if you need to go to their
supervisor you can say to them look I have seen so and so and they
have done nothing to solve the problem. Because the first thing the
supervisor will do is suggest a conciliation meeting.
About Gilbert Labour
Mr Labour has recently completed a new book
Corporate Psychopathy - Death in the
Workplace. This resource provides a key starting point for
people working in corporate environments who are suffering under the
regime of an out of control psychopath. It provides robust proven
strategies for overcoming the mental and physical problems caused by
a psychopath. This book is available direct from Mr Labour for
$29.95 plus postage and handling. In addition for each book sold, $5
will be going to Coaches with Borders for developing work and life
skills for the poor in Mauritius.
Mr Labour is a strategist, consultant,
adviser, speaker and presenter on corporate restructuring,
psychopathy in the workplace, life and executive coaching, project
and program management, Six Sigma and Lean process improvement.
He combines all these skills in a unique
combination, utilising Six Sigma and project management, to provide
modern enlightened companies with truly innovative advice that will
create a sustainable competitive advantage. Mr Labour exercises his
skills and influence with compassion and deep understanding of the
human condition especially where restructures result in overwhelming
change and job loss.
He specialises in the following industries:
legal and accountancy, telecommunications, transportation and
aviation, banking and finance, insurance, government, IT and
outsourcing and believes that his experience in these verticals is
applicable across all industries, countries, languages, cultures and
businesses generally. He has 30 years corporate experience in these
industries.
Every single industry he specialises in
(telcos, aviation, retail banking, insurance, outsourcing) faces
fundamental challenges to continued survival and prosperity in the
21st Century and Mr Labour is well placed to provide a
multi-disciplinary approach to uncovering insights for competitive
advantage.
He sees the management of strategic,
compliance and operational risk as one of the key issues facing
executive managers on a daily basis. But not all companies can take
advantage of formal Basel II and Sarbannes-Oxley (SOX) governance
models.
For those companies that are not in the
financial industry but still require strong governance around the
management of operational risk, Mr Labour is an expert on creating
strategies for managing operational risk supported by strong
programme management structures to ensure compliance.</>
He has been extensively involved in process
improvement initiatives within project and production environments.
He has delivered Six Sigma Green and Black Belt process improvement
programs that provide bottom line improvement whilst maintaining and
enhancing employee morale.
He also owns and runs one of the world's
most comprehensive web resources on the topic of life and executive
coaching containing over 1500 pages of advice and more than 250
articles on life and executive coaching. He has also been quoted in
learned papers, newspaper and magazine articles.
He has written a book on life coaching
which provides an introduction to life coaching for the general
public. He has also written a book on executive coaching, Executive
Coaching for Process Improvement Excellence, that provides daily
insights for top managers looking to succeed in today's fast paced
environment.
He is also a pioneer in the field of
coaching and project management having presented a landmark paper on
this topic at PMISA 2004 (World Conference on Project Management) in
South Africa in May, 04. His paper entitled Sane Project Management, a Life and Executive
Coaching Approach has created both a new field in project
management and a new area of interest and research for coaching and
coaches around the world.
For PMISA 2006 (World Conference on Project
Management) he has written a paper entitled Project Management and Six Sigma - a convergent
and divergent model for solving business problems. He seeks to
develop a theoretical and practical model to extract readily
applicable business approaches from both divergence and convergence
of these two disciplines.
He will explore whether coaching can
facilitate the extraction of some of the benefits of this
convergence? This will be continuing an exploration of the
connection between coaching and project management that he first
developed and presented at PMISA 2004.
Mr Labour acknowledges that in today's
highly competitive and rapidly changing business environment, a busy
consultant, life coach or executive coach must evince a compelling
value proposition, as much for himself as for his product and
service.
His unique value proposition is bringing to
bear, on difficult even intractable business problems, a brilliant
mix of both quantitative and qualitative approaches, embracing Six
Sigma, Lean, project management, executive coaching, operational and
line management.
He has a refreshing engaging and vibrant
perspective on life and business in the corporate world. He is able
to engage with any company in the world, within his industry
expertise and beyond, and provide an assessment of the issues and
problems that management suspects exists. He does this on a
pro-active basis and confidentially.
He is also able to execute or be involved
in the execution of any recommendations resulting from these
engagements. He has previously managed large programs of work
involving major restructuring, outsourcing and downsizing.
He forecasts a greater demand for people
with his unique blend of skills in the future especially where
established, staid inefficient companies in otherwise dynamic
industries face head-on competition from more efficient home grown
companies and those companies thriving in the tiger economies of
China and India with their vast pool of cheap, educated and trained
local talent.
Executive Coaching Tips and Techniques No.
83
Corporate psychopathy and military
success
In some cases psychopathy can lead to
wins
Stalin created a psychopathic class of
officer who he had previously purged but not killed and who were
brought back into the fight to the death against Germany. Ironically
his purges created a warrior class that contributed to his win over
Germany. So you can say in this case, Stalin's psychopathy and
paranoia were winning strategies.
It is conventional history to state that
Stalin in 1930s severely weakened and demoralised the Soviet Armed
Forces office corps by a series of punishing, violent and
destructive purges that ostensibly took place because he feared they
were planning a coup, which in reality had no basis in fact.
A large number of people were killed,
tortured and otherwise terrorised by his brutal tactics. There is no
doubt whatsoever that Stalin was a psychopath hence you would expect
this behaviour. All this is accepted history. But what is
unconventional is that the purges far from weakening the Soviet
Armed Forces (new figures state it only affected 10% of the officer
corps anyway) actually strengthened them. How?
Stalin used a
number of key people in the war against Germany who had been
brutalised and tortured but otherwise survived his purges. He looked
to these very damaged people to fight a war of annihilation with
Germany. He created a psychopathic class of officers brutalised by
his regime in the 30s who would have no compunction in the early 40s
to send their men into battle to die futilely, needlessly without a
shadow of remorse.
In 1943 such profligate use of men and
resources was abated somewhat but the psychopathic tendencies of
Stalin's generals was a permanent feature of war on the Eastern
Front. After all when working for a psychopath, one of the
strategies for survival is you either become one yourself or
collapse under the pressure.
About Gilbert Labour
Mr Labour has recently completed a new book
Corporate Psychopathy - Death in the
Workplace. This resource provides a key starting point for
people working in corporate environments who are suffering under the
regime of an out of control psychopath. It provides robust proven
strategies for overcoming the mental and physical problems caused by
a psychopath. This book is available direct from Mr Labour for
$29.95 plus postage and handling. In addition for each book sold, $5
will be going to Coaches with Borders for developing work and life
skills for the poor in Mauritius.
Mr Labour is a strategist, consultant,
adviser, speaker and presenter on corporate restructuring,
psychopathy in the workplace, life and executive coaching, project
and program management, Six Sigma and Lean process improvement.
He combines all these skills in a unique
combination, utilising Six Sigma and project management, to provide
modern enlightened companies with truly innovative advice that will
create a sustainable competitive advantage. Mr Labour exercises his
skills and influence with compassion and deep understanding of the
human condition especially where restructures result in overwhelming
change and job loss.
He specialises in the following industries:
legal and accountancy, telecommunications, transportation and
aviation, banking and finance, insurance, government, IT and
outsourcing and believes that his experience in these verticals is
applicable across all industries, countries, languages, cultures and
businesses generally. He has 30 years corporate experience in these
industries.
Every single industry he specialises in
(telcos, aviation, retail banking, insurance, outsourcing) faces
fundamental challenges to continued survival and prosperity in the
21st Century and Mr Labour is well placed to provide a
multi-disciplinary approach to uncovering insights for competitive
advantage.
He sees the management of strategic,
compliance and operational risk as one of the key issues facing
executive managers on a daily basis. But not all companies can take
advantage of formal Basel II and Sarbannes-Oxley (SOX) governance
models.
For those companies that are not in the
financial industry but still require strong governance around the
management of operational risk, Mr Labour is an expert on creating
strategies for managing operational risk supported by strong
programme management structures to ensure compliance.</>
He has been extensively involved in process
improvement initiatives within project and production environments.
He has delivered Six Sigma Green and Black Belt process improvement
programs that provide bottom line improvement whilst maintaining and
enhancing employee morale.
He also owns and runs one of the world's
most comprehensive web resources on the topic of life and executive
coaching containing over 1500 pages of advice and more than 250
articles on life and executive coaching. He has also been quoted in
learned papers, newspaper and magazine articles.
He has written a book on life coaching
which provides an introduction to life coaching for the general
public. He has also written a book on executive coaching, Executive
Coaching for Process Improvement Excellence, that provides daily
insights for top managers looking to succeed in today's fast paced
environment.
He is also a pioneer in the field of
coaching and project management having presented a landmark paper on
this topic at PMISA 2004 (World Conference on Project Management) in
South Africa in May, 04. His paper entitled Sane Project Management, a Life and Executive
Coaching Approach has created both a new field in project
management and a new area of interest and research for coaching and
coaches around the world.
For PMISA 2006 (World Conference on Project
Management) he has written a paper entitled Project Management and Six Sigma - a convergent
and divergent model for solving business problems. He seeks to
develop a theoretical and practical model to extract readily
applicable business approaches from both divergence and convergence
of these two disciplines.
He will explore whether coaching can
facilitate the extraction of some of the benefits of this
convergence? This will be continuing an exploration of the
connection between coaching and project management that he first
developed and presented at PMISA 2004.
Mr Labour acknowledges that in today's
highly competitive and rapidly changing business environment, a busy
consultant, life coach or executive coach must evince a compelling
value proposition, as much for himself as for his product and
service.
His unique value proposition is bringing to
bear, on difficult even intractable business problems, a brilliant
mix of both quantitative and qualitative approaches, embracing Six
Sigma, Lean, project management, executive coaching, operational and
line management.
He has a refreshing engaging and vibrant
perspective on life and business in the corporate world. He is able
to engage with any company in the world, within his industry
expertise and beyond, and provide an assessment of the issues and
problems that management suspects exists. He does this on a
pro-active basis and confidentially.
He is also able to execute or be involved
in the execution of any recommendations resulting from these
engagements. He has previously managed large programs of work
involving major restructuring, outsourcing and downsizing.
He forecasts a greater demand for people
with his unique blend of skills in the future especially where
established, staid inefficient companies in otherwise dynamic
industries face head-on competition from more efficient home grown
companies and those companies thriving in the tiger economies of
China and India with their vast pool of cheap, educated and trained
local talent.
Executive Coaching Tips and Techniques No.
82
Success at work
A lot of problems arise in companies when
they want to change too quickly. They can change processes quickly
enough but what takes time to change and bed down is a change in
corporate culture. This is the very fabric that holds an
organisation together. It is bureaucratic adhesive without the
bureaucracy.
What happens to a 'can do' attitude inside
an immovable object like a conservative, inflexible and hierarchical
organisation? Simply a collision, a clash of cultures and great
frustration for those who wants to get things done but can't.
Change is not just about improving
processes, removing waste, eliminating defects and training people.
It is just as much about changing the environment that people work
in so that their initiative and innovation meets no artificial
boundaries especially those set by conservative and uninspired
middle managers.
A happy organisation is one where the
operational model matches and is complemented by a corporate culture
that recognises and rewards excellence in innovation and creativity.
Employees are at their happiest when they are given room to grow and
shine. The quality of a good organisation is employing people with
this potential.
Employees from within these happy
organisations find there aren't too many hard obstacles when they're
trying to get things done according to the 'can do' attitude of most
companies nowadays. The problem is not that companies don't preach a
can do attitude they all do, it is that not all of them support that
with a corporate culture. They all talk the talk not many walk the
walk.
There is no one article or perhaps even a
book that can provide all the answers to conquering workplace
stress. Stress is one of the most complicated subjects to write
about especially if you think you know stress just because you have
experienced it and therefore are an expert on it.
I have 30 years corporate experience where
I have caused people stress, have been under stress myself and have
been given briefs as an executive coach to identify and root out
stress from organisations.
Stress makes organisations toxic to work
in. But it is a fact of life that some organisations have a high
tolerance for pain whilst others low. This high threshold for pain
translates into an environment for the stressed individual that is
pitiless and grinding. I have worked for high threshold
organisations that seem to tolerate a high degree 'seemingly' of
chaos which of course is a ripe environment for psychopaths to roam
and pillage.
Everybody dies
Someone who has inspired me has resigned
and is moving on. This I guess is the last article inspired by this
person. Which brings me to the subject of this article. All tenure
in organisations is transient. One way or another one day you too
will leave of your own accord, retire or die on the job.
You may also retire one day and be dead
within 6 months. Actuaries love this because it means they don't
have to keep on paying a pension for another 20 or 30 years. Don't
become a statistic, aim to retire as early as you can. The
government won't take care of you, only you will take care of you.
About Gilbert Labour
Mr Labour has recently completed a book
illuminated by his life and executive coaching experience Corporate Psychopathy - Death in the
Workplace. It is a study of corporate psychopathy and the price
people, who are exposed to its brutal and vicious force, pay.
Mr Labour is a strategist, consultant,
adviser, speaker and presenter on corporate restructuring,
psychopathy in the workplace, life and executive coaching, project
and program management, Six Sigma and Lean process improvement.
He combines all these skills in a unique
combination, utilising Six Sigma and project management, to provide
modern enlightened companies with truly innovative advice that will
create a sustainable competitive advantage. Mr Labour exercises his
skills and influence with compassion and deep understanding of the
human condition especially where restructures result in overwhelming
change and job loss.
He specialises in the following industries:
legal and accountancy, telecommunications, transportation and
aviation, banking and finance, insurance, government, IT and
outsourcing and believes that his experience in these verticals is
applicable across all industries, countries, languages, cultures and
businesses generally. He has 30 years corporate experience in these
industries.
Every single industry he specialises in
(telcos, aviation, retail banking, insurance, outsourcing) faces
fundamental challenges to continued survival and prosperity in the
21st Century and Mr Labour is well placed to provide a
multi-disciplinary approach to uncovering insights for competitive
advantage.
He sees the management of strategic,
compliance and operational risk as one of the key issues facing
executive managers on a daily basis. But not all companies can take
advantage of formal Basel II and Sarbannes-Oxley (SOX) governance
models.
For those companies that are not in the
financial industry but still require strong governance around the
management of operational risk, Mr Labour is an expert on creating
strategies for managing operational risk supported by strong
programme management structures to ensure compliance.</>
He has been extensively involved in process
improvement initiatives within project and production environments.
He has delivered Six Sigma Green and Black Belt process improvement
programs that provide bottom line improvement whilst maintaining and
enhancing employee morale.
He also owns and runs one of the world's
most comprehensive web resources on the topic of life and executive
coaching containing over 1500 pages of advice and more than 250
articles on life and executive coaching. He has also been quoted in
learned papers, newspaper and magazine articles.
He has written a book on life coaching
which provides an introduction to life coaching for the general
public. He has also written a book on executive coaching, Executive
Coaching for Process Improvement Excellence, that provides daily
insights for top managers looking to succeed in today's fast paced
environment.
He is also a pioneer in the field of
coaching and project management having presented a landmark paper on
this topic at PMISA 2004 (World Conference on Project Management) in
South Africa in May, 04. His paper entitled Sane Project Management, a Life and Executive
Coaching Approach has created both a new field in project
management and a new area of interest and research for coaching and
coaches around the world.
For PMISA 2006 (World Conference on Project
Management) he has written a paper entitled Project Management and Six Sigma - a convergent
and divergent model for solving business problems. He seeks to
develop a theoretical and practical model to extract readily
applicable business approaches from both divergence and convergence
of these two disciplines.
He will explore whether coaching can
facilitate the extraction of some of the benefits of this
convergence? This will be continuing an exploration of the
connection between coaching and project management that he first
developed and presented at PMISA 2004.
Mr Labour acknowledges that in today's
highly competitive and rapidly changing business environment, a busy
consultant, life coach or executive coach must evince a compelling
value proposition, as much for himself as for his product and
service.
His unique value proposition is bringing to
bear, on difficult even intractable business problems, a brilliant
mix of both quantitative and qualitative approaches, embracing Six
Sigma, Lean, project management, executive coaching, operational and
line management.
He has a refreshing engaging and vibrant
perspective on life and business in the corporate world. He is able
to engage with any company in the world, within his industry
expertise and beyond, and provide an assessment of the issues and
problems that management suspects exists. He does this on a
pro-active basis and confidentially.
He is also able to execute or be involved
in the execution of any recommendations resulting from these
engagements. He has previously managed large programs of work
involving major restructuring, outsourcing and downsizing.
He forecasts a greater demand for people
with his unique blend of skills in the future especially where
established, staid inefficient companies in otherwise dynamic
industries face head-on competition from more efficient home grown
companies and those companies thriving in the tiger economies of
China and India with their vast pool of cheap, educated and trained
local talent.
Executive Coaching Tips and Techniques No.
81
Project rescue
Do you have a large project that you think
is out of control? Some things that may make you think that way
include ---
Sudden, unexpected and unexplained
departures of project managers and technical staff associated with
the project
A spate of niggling absences disguised as
flu/colds/stomach upsets
A psychopath (who may report to you) in the
midst. Someone who maintains everything is fine to you whilst the
world crumbles around him or her. This person terrorises his people
whilst genuflecting to you.
A senior manager (could be you) who
maintains to his or her peers that everything is fine and these are
only temporary setbacks but who knows deep down 'something' is
wrong.
Inability of the project team to make the
customer happy (this is not just about delivering on their promises
it goes beyond that). The customer is fundamentally dissatisfied,
angry even.
If this is you, caught between a rock and a
hard place, I can help you by -
Conducting a project health check using
PMBOK standards and templates. I will coolly appraise the health of
the project.
Is there is a nexus between the metrics of
the project and the absences, resignations and poor customer
appraisals. There usually is if you have a niggling feeling
something is wrong but that may not be the case here.
The way forward. There is something wrong
and it is related to the metrics of the project. Alternatively there
is something wrong but it is not related
to the metrics of the project.
Either way there is a problem. If it is
related to the project it is an organisational/personal problem. If
it is not it is a personal/ organisational problem.
Consultations with all project group
members to determine their feelings, thoughts and ideas about
whether the project is out of control and their views of how to fix
it. Each person will be encouraged to air all their perceived issues
on an individual basis.
A session with you to determine the
approach to solving the problem. This could include a group
workshop, one on one sessions, life coaching sessions, executive
coaching, project management coaching or a combination of all the
above.
A one day workshop to air all common issues
in a communal setting with a set agenda. Group discussion to focus
the group on the top 5 issues identified in the one on one
consultation session.
About Gilbert Labour
Mr Labour has recently completed a book
illuminated by his life and executive coaching experience Corporate Psychopathy - Death in the
Workplace. It is a study of corporate psychopathy and the price
people, who are exposed to its brutal and vicious force, pay.
Mr Labour is a strategist, consultant,
adviser, speaker and presenter on corporate restructuring,
psychopathy in the workplace, life and executive coaching, project
and program management, Six Sigma and Lean process improvement.
He combines all these skills in a unique
combination, utilising Six Sigma and project management, to provide
modern enlightened companies with truly innovative advice that will
create a sustainable competitive advantage. Mr Labour exercises his
skills and influence with compassion and deep understanding of the
human condition especially where restructures result in overwhelming
change and job loss.
He specialises in the following industries:
legal and accountancy, telecommunications, transportation and
aviation, banking and finance, insurance, government, IT and
outsourcing and believes that his experience in these verticals is
applicable across all industries, countries, languages, cultures and
businesses generally. He has 30 years corporate experience in these
industries.
Every single industry he specialises in
(telcos, aviation, retail banking, insurance, outsourcing) faces
fundamental challenges to continued survival and prosperity in the
21st Century and Mr Labour is well placed to provide a
multi-disciplinary approach to uncovering insights for competitive
advantage.
He sees the management of strategic,
compliance and operational risk as one of the key issues facing
executive managers on a daily basis. But not all companies can take
advantage of formal Basel II and Sarbannes-Oxley (SOX) governance
models.
For those companies that are not in the
financial industry but still require strong governance around the
management of operational risk, Mr Labour is an expert on creating
strategies for managing operational risk supported by strong
programme management structures to ensure compliance.</>
He has been extensively involved in process
improvement initiatives within project and production environments.
He has delivered Six Sigma Green and Black Belt process improvement
programs that provide bottom line improvement whilst maintaining and
enhancing employee morale.
He also owns and runs one of the world's
most comprehensive web resources on the topic of life and executive
coaching containing over 1500 pages of advice and more than 250
articles on life and executive coaching. He has also been quoted in
learned papers, newspaper and magazine articles.
He has written a book on life coaching
which provides an introduction to life coaching for the general
public. He has also written a book on executive coaching, Executive
Coaching for Process Improvement Excellence, that provides daily
insights for top managers looking to succeed in today's fast paced
environment.
He is also a pioneer in the field of
coaching and project management having presented a landmark paper on
this topic at PMISA 2004 (World Conference on Project Management) in
South Africa in May, 04. His paper entitled Sane Project Management, a Life and Executive
Coaching Approach has created both a new field in project
management and a new area of interest and research for coaching and
coaches around the world.
For PMISA 2006 (World Conference on Project
Management) he has written a paper entitled Project Management and Six Sigma - a convergent
and divergent model for solving business problems. He seeks to
develop a theoretical and practical model to extract readily
applicable business approaches from both divergence and convergence
of these two disciplines.
He will explore whether coaching can
facilitate the extraction of some of the benefits of this
convergence? This will be continuing an exploration of the
connection between coaching and project management that he first
developed and presented at PMISA 2004.
Mr Labour acknowledges that in today's
highly competitive and rapidly changing business environment, a busy
consultant, life coach or executive coach must evince a compelling
value proposition, as much for himself as for his product and
service.
His unique value proposition is bringing to
bear, on difficult even intractable business problems, a brilliant
mix of both quantitative and qualitative approaches, embracing Six
Sigma, Lean, project management, executive coaching, operational and
line management.
He has a refreshing engaging and vibrant
perspective on life and business in the corporate world. He is able
to engage with any company in the world, within his industry
expertise and beyond, and provide an assessment of the issues and
problems that management suspects exists. He does this on a
pro-active basis and confidentially.
He is also able to execute or be involved
in the execution of any recommendations resulting from these
engagements. He has previously managed large programs of work
involving major restructuring, outsourcing and downsizing.
He forecasts a greater demand for people
with his unique blend of skills in the future especially where
established, staid inefficient companies in otherwise dynamic
industries face head-on competition from more efficient home grown
companies and those companies thriving in the tiger economies of
China and India with their vast pool of cheap, educated and trained
local talent.
Executive Coaching Tips and Techniques No.
80
Executive Stress Revisited
The first law of stress is that you are
always on a journey between two destinations: low stress at one end
and high at the other. As soon as you reach one the natural order is
to set out to reach the other.
To prevent the natural order, from low to
high, requires a huge amount of work on fitness, diet and exercise
(amongst other things). To encourage the natural order, from high to
low, similarly requires a huge amount of work with initially not
much progress.
Think that retiring to a desert island with
10 million dollars will eliminate all stress in your life? Think
again. There is no life that has existed and currently exists
without a certain level of stress. Stress is as important as oxygen
and water for a living thing.
I like to think of stress as a permanent
chess board in your brain with a game always on. Some permutations
of the pieces and consequently how the game is poised at any
particular time will leave more stressed and other permutations will
leave you less stressed.
There is always the potential to be more
stressed when your current position is less stressed and vice versa,
that is, there is always the potential to be less stressed when your
current position is more stressed.
In other words whichever state you're in
(less or more stressed) the natural scheme of things is for the one
state to transform into the other over time (and back again). So
inside your head you're continually at war, in a campaign against an
enemy that will never be defeated.
There is a continual shift from one state to
another and this shift occurs against a background of your current
circumstances whether it be personal, relationship, financial, work,
business or health. There is no permanent state of nirvana where are
will always feel under less stress.
Less stress is only a temporary destination
that will oscillate back to more stress as given circumstances do
and will change. It requires work and effort to keep a state of less
stress and prevent returning back to the status quo, at least for
the time being.
Conversely, more stress is only a temporary
destination that will oscillate back to less stress as given
circumstances do and will change. It requires work and effort to
move from a state of more stress to one of less stress.
That is a good thing because a certain level
of stress is healthy. It means you care, you give a damn, it means
what goes on around you matters. It also means you are willing to
put time and effort in changing the things that you care about for
the better.
The ideal is to build a physical and mental
fitness platform that keeps your level of stress delicately poised
between high and low, in a fairly narrow range that is naturally
healthy for you.
About Gilbert Labour
Gilbert Labour is a life and executive coach
practicing in Australia. He has had, for a number of years, a
leading web site
dedicated to these subjects. So far his web site has experienced
over 16,000 hits so he can claim to be influential on a worldwide
basis in this area.
His hits come mainly from the US, UK, Europe
and Australia/NZ where life and executive coaching is at its zenith.
That is no accident. It is the developed countries who have put
effort into developing this once nascent movement into the global
powerhouse it is today.
Mr Labour has been extremely influential in
this growth by assuming a leadership role in a number of areas
including corporate psychopathy and in the 'power v influence'
debate. He has written, published and presented papers on such wide
ranging but related subjects as project management, six sigma,
executive coaching and corporate psychopathy.
He has provided input to newspaper articles,
learned papers, novels and generally participated in the debate
raging on the net about the destructive power of corporate
psychopathy on the well being of organisations. This book is based
primarily around on a series of executive coaching tips and
techniques from his web site.
Mr Labour is available to consult with
organisations worldwide on the subjects canvassed in this book
including corporate psychopathy, corporate culture, creating high
performance organisations, and changing organisations using
innovation & creativity.
He is also available to life coach employees
or groups of employees on strategies to overcome obstacles and to
put in place a successful plan for achieving independence in
2007.
Gilbert Labour's Life Coaching New Year
Message for 2007
2006 has been a tumultuous year for the
world. The life coaching movement can only but mimic what else is
going on in the world. After all it can't be any more real than real
life. Everywhere people are in crisis and not just in Africa or the
Middle East.
In many western countries job conditions are
under attack partially as a result of the competition from the mega
economies of China and India but also because home economies and
companies are being run inefficiently.
One way forward is to cut worker's
conditions and wages but that does not necessarily solve the problem
for inefficient companies. They still need to compete with
India/China whose wages and conditions and cost structure generally
are even lower.
Conservative governments are acquiescent in
this complicity to deprive workers of their rights fully
understanding that lowering worker's conditions, if it ever was a
solution, was only going to be a part of the solution.
It may be even compounding the problem by
allowing inefficient companies to pick low hanging fruit and not
forcing them to focus on fundamental industry wide reform.
With this as background, what is the life
coaching outlook for 2007?
Life coaching is and still remains elitist.
Generally speaking it is a movement driven by and consumed by
professionals with IT professionals at the forefront of industry
development and consumption. This is necessarily so because it is a
movement directed via the internet so IT skills to setup web sites
is key and the people who surf these sites are professionals in the
main.
Secondly it is a service almost exclusively
consumed by professionals because the fees charged, typically
$130-180 per hour, are very high and out of reach of normal workers
on average wages/salaries. But this needs to change. Lower paid
workers are in crisis and need professional help and support beyond
their families and immediate support group. High achievement should
be your aim but you can't achieve in the face of punishing and
difficult work places.
The solution is to use the methods and
techniques of life coaching to overcome existing obstacles and put
in place a plan for success in 2007. These include putting in place
a platform for performance, controlling mental and physical health
issues and using your creativity to provide you with more choices in
your personal, business and work life. These strategies are outlined
in my new book Corporate Psychopathy - Death in the Workplace.
About Gilbert Labour
Gilbert Labour is a life and executive coach
practicing in Australia. He has had, for a number of years, a
leading web site
dedicated to these subjects. So far his web site has experienced
over 16,000 hits so he can claim to be influential on a worldwide
basis in this area.
His hits come mainly from the US, UK, Europe
and Australia/NZ where life and executive coaching is at its zenith.
That is no accident. It is the developed countries who have put
effort into developing this once nascent movement into the global
powerhouse it is today.
Mr Labour has been extremely influential in
this growth by assuming a leadership role in a number of areas
including corporate psychopathy and in the 'power v influence'
debate. He has written, published and presented papers on such wide
ranging but related subjects as project management, six sigma,
executive coaching and corporate psychopathy.
He has provided input to newspaper articles,
learned papers, novels and generally participated in the debate
raging on the net about the destructive power of corporate
psychopathy on the well being of organisations. This book is based
primarily around on a series of executive coaching tips and
techniques from his web site.
Mr Labour is available to consult with
organisations worldwide on the subjects canvassed in this book
including corporate psychopathy, corporate culture, creating high
performance organisations, and changing organisations using
innovation & creativity.
He is also available to life coach employees
or groups of employees on strategies to overcome obstacles and to
put in place a successful plan for achieving independence in
2007.
You can send a message to Mr Labour. Please
visit the web site dedicated to his new book Corporate Psychopathy -
Death in the Workplace for the latest news, reviews,
feedback and updates to this book.
Life Coaching Tips and Techniques No.
119
Life and Executive Coaching Ideas and
Thoughts Part II
If you enter the words life coaching in the google search engine
you will receive something like 32, 900, 000 hits (32.9 million
hits). This web site is ranked no. 10 in that ranking. That is an
amazing achievement. What is great about this web site is it is
about life coaching not a brochure advertising services. You can get
value from this web site just be reading it. The best companies,
investment banks, universities and business schools in the world
can't be wrong. Psychology departments of leading universities visit
this web site. It is a unique presence on the web of my invention
but it is a concoction that is soulful and nutritious.
Handling the silence at work when your best
friend is gone. How do you survive the emptiness? What can stop you
drifting aimlessly? Wandering aimlessly? This is about how to get
your focus and (low) intensity back. But remember there is always a
price to pay for high intensity if that was your former state.
Always expecting perfection from yourself,
24 x 7 x 365. Living your life problem free, guilt free and
substance abuse free. When all the ducks are lined up all the time.
What is wrong with this picture? It is simply unsustainable no
matter how good you are, no matter how fit you are, no matter how
good a performer you have been previously in your life.
Do you get the feeling sometimes that
you're wasting your time and even when you're not you're still
wasting your time? How do you confront and challenge that perception
in such a way that you either demolish it or acknowledge it?
When an organisation is reduced to 'jobs
for the boys' then you know it has reached the end of its current
growth lifecycle and it is entering the decaying period. This can go
on to its inevitable conclusion or as soon as it is realised, the
next phase can begin. That is to break the organisation and rebuild
from scratch.
The secret to being good great at anything
is longevity and health. Longevity so you can experience the highs
and lows many times over. Win and lose many times maybe even the
same scenario each time. Health so that you can impart your
knowledge to others after your nth recovery.
Human beings do not really learn from their
mistakes until they have made the same mistake 5 times.
When caught in a rut, innovate, use
networking, write and present papers, attend conferences. Develop
story and business ideas above all don't stop working. Overnight
success is just around the corner (after 5 years hard slog).
There are people who are born to be great
at everything they do and superlative at one or two things they
really concentrate on. That is not the majority. For most, to be
successful, hard work and guidance is the key especially the latter.
About Gilbert Labour
Mr Labour is a strategist, consultant,
adviser, speaker and presenter on corporate restructuring,
psychopathy in the workplace, life and executive coaching, project
and program management, Six Sigma and Lean process improvement.
He combines all these skills in a unique
combination, utilising Six Sigma and project management, to provide
modern enlightened companies with truly innovative advice that will
create a sustainable competitive advantage. Mr Labour exercises his
skills and influence with compassion and deep understanding of the
human condition especially where restructures result in overwhelming
change and job loss.
He specialises in the following industries:
legal and accountancy, telecommunications, transportation and
aviation, banking and finance, insurance, government, IT and
outsourcing and believes that his experience in these verticals is
applicable across all industries, countries, languages, cultures and
businesses generally. He has 30 years corporate experience in these
industries.
Every single industry he specialises in
(telcos, aviation, retail banking, insurance, outsourcing) faces
fundamental challenges to continued survival and prosperity in the
21st Century and Mr Labour is well placed to provide a
multi-disciplinary approach to uncovering insights for competitive
advantage.
He sees the management of strategic,
compliance and operational risk as one of the key issues facing
executive managers on a daily basis. But not all companies can take
advantage of formal Basel II and Sarbannes-Oxley (SOX) governance
models.
For those companies that are not in the
financial industry but still require strong governance around the
management of operational risk, Mr Labour is an expert on creating
strategies for managing operational risk supported by strong
programme management structures to ensure compliance.</>
He has been extensively involved in process
improvement initiatives within project and production environments.
He has delivered Six Sigma Green and Black Belt process improvement
programs that provide bottom line improvement whilst maintaining and
enhancing employee morale.
He also owns and runs one of the world's
most comprehensive web resources on the topic of life and executive
coaching containing over 1500 pages of advice and more than 250
articles on life and executive coaching. He has also been quoted in
learned papers, newspaper and magazine articles.
He has written a book on life coaching
which provides an introduction to life coaching for the general
public. He has also written a book on executive coaching, Executive
Coaching for Process Improvement Excellence, that provides daily
insights for top managers looking to succeed in today's fast paced
environment.
He is also a pioneer in the field of
coaching and project management having presented a landmark paper on
this topic at PMISA 2004 (World Conference on Project Management) in
South Africa in May, 04. His paper entitled Sane Project Management, a Life and Executive
Coaching Approach has created both a new field in project
management and a new area of interest and research for coaching and
coaches around the world.
For PMISA 2006 (World Conference on Project
Management) he is presenting a paper entitled Project Management and Six Sigma - a convergent
and divergent model for solving business problems. He seeks to
develop a theoretical and practical model to extract readily
applicable business approaches from both divergence and convergence
of these two disciplines.
He will explore whether coaching can
facilitate the extraction of some of the benefits of this
convergence? This will be continuing an exploration of the
connection between coaching and project management that he first
developed and presented at PMISA 2004.
Mr Labour acknowledges that in today's
highly competitive and rapidly changing business environment, a busy
consultant, life coach or executive coach must evince a compelling
value proposition, as much for himself as for his product and
service.
His unique value proposition is bringing to
bear, on difficult even intractable business problems, a brilliant
mix of both quantitative and qualitative approaches, embracing Six
Sigma, Lean, project management, executive coaching, operational and
line management.
He has a refreshing engaging and vibrant
perspective on life and business in the corporate world. He is able
to engage with any company in the world, within his industry
expertise and beyond, and provide an assessment of the issues and
problems that management suspects exists. He does this on a
pro-active basis and confidentially.
He is also able to execute or be involved
in the execution of any recommendations resulting from these
engagements. He has previously managed large programs of work
involving major restructuring, outsourcing and downsizing.
He forecasts a greater demand for people
with his unique blend of skills in the future especially where
established, staid inefficient companies in otherwise dynamic
industries face head-on competition from more efficient home grown
companies and those companies thriving in the tiger economies of
China and India with their vast pool of cheap, educated and trained
local talent.
Mr Labour will be holding an Executive Coaching Retreat in Mauritius
between 29 May 06 and June 11 06. Further details on the retreat
will be made available as they are finalised.
Life Coaching Tips and Techniques No.
117
Life and Executive Coaching Ideas and
Thoughts Part I
Never bad mouth anyone in an email
(personal or business) no matter how much they deserve it. Email is
not a tool of vengeance. Email is essentially a useless tool, good
for not much at all.
If you have a reached a stage where you
have a developed a strong discipline and a good physical platform
even though that is a good end in itself, it is what you do with it
that will decide how successful you are. Once this is in place what
is important is not the 'how' but the 'what' as you have already
fine tuned the how.
If you have been flagging something with
management for several months and every time you ask they say 'out
of scope' or 'no work involved' or not part of your job/work, what
do you do when they belatedly come to you and say 'ah we've now
discovered there is something for you to do after all'. Say nothing,
do nothing. Wait. The power is on your side. You decide the shape of
the solution and the intensity and strength of your response (if
any).
Living your corporate life via email. I
used to know a manager who would not start a conversation, a coffee
break, a lunch or anything really without first checking his email
for 'zingers'. Emails that could damage, hurt or humiliate him.
Loser.
This is not what corporate life is about.
Running, hiding, ducking and weaving and presenting sideon whilst
wearing a coat of armour. If email is life and death, then the
corporate life is not worth living. It's not as if you can be born
or die by email. Does it? In corporates forget emails and start
living, conversing, communicating.
What is so good about creating a head of
stream and going for it? Even when you start to run out of steam,
others helping you will pick up the pace and carry you along with
it. But always noting that what you are being carried along is your
own set pace, direction and energy in the first place. What comes
around goes around.
What is corporate culture? Is it something
ephemeral something outside people's consciousness that just is,
whatever the 'is' is. Is it a spirit, a corp d'esprit. Is it
something physical like another building not the one we're currently
in.
Is it something created by one person and
shared with others? Or created by many and shared with others? Is it
created by many and only experienced by one person? Is it an
external or internal reputation? What we're 'famous' for? Who owns
the truth in the corporate culture stakes? Is there a single truth?
Does the CEO decide what the corporate culture is? Or is it decided
subconsciously by the employees themselves without even knowing.
Why risk analysis is not a good basis for
decision making by project managers. Fools and cowards hide behind
risk analysis. Analysis paralysis. Real project managers make
decisions, risk analysis is a methodology for those too afraid, too
frightened to make wrong decisions, to make mistakes. Risk analysis
is about what can go wrong but it should be about what can go right?
People who are cranky and upset coming to
work and who wreak havoc at every turn. Who are short-tempered and
fly off the handle. Welcome to any typical corporate anywhere in the
world (perhaps Japan excepted but then this is sublimated into
subservience and still needs to find an outlet).
What the best way of managing a career
transition? I mean the logistics of a career transition once you
have a new position to go to? Some people really stuff this up and
end up being asked to leave early and missing out on pay. What are
the key drivers for a successful transition strategy? Keep it quiet
till the last possible moment.
I have found over the years staying longer
for an extended handover period is pure useless for you. It has
absolutely no return. So go when you want to go. Forget the old
employer, they are history. You'll only ever remember it in the last
60 seconds of your life when your life flashes before you.
I have also found starting early for your
new employer (especially at no pay) is also absolutely useless. All
it does is show that you are desperate to make a good impression
(and you're a pushover) and your gesture won't be appreciated by
your new 'slack' colleagues.
Working with people who are so brilliant
that none can keep up with them either with the quality of their
work or with their amazing productivity. This is not about gaining
high performance or sustaining it but about how to integrate such a
performer within a team environment? Corporates are about working
within teams and teams are held back by their strongest link not by
their weakest. The weak just get brushed aside.
What is the value of loyalty in a corporate
environment? Put simply loyalty is the fulcrum by which all great
relationships within a corporate environment are based. Around
loyalty gathers trust, ease and affection creating the strongest of
bonds.
A great idea whose time has come but what
if the company is not ready? What if to all intents and purposes the
technology is an easy fit but the people, the hierarchies, the power
blocks, the silos see this as a threat to their power bases perhaps
because this product requires cross border support thereby diluting
their monopoly?
brilliance@work. There is no point being so
brilliant that nobody can work with you, keep up with you or even
understand you. There is a place for brilliance in a corporate
environment if it is sublimated into a corporate goal, if it is
understated, if it is well hidden, if it is not on show all the
time, if it is used to power the internal engine only.
Taking exception to someone's flippant
remarks. Between customer and client? Why is it a distraction?
Because the customer is paying for a serious dedication to the job
at hand. But really deep down it is a crock.
Managers who work their staff to death.
Those managers who deliberately overwork their subordinates, who
give them far more than they are able to do in the allotted amount
of time. Why do they do it?
It is illegal (as against Occupational
Health and Safety regulations) in some countries for managers to
knowingly/intentionally give their staff too much to do,
extraordinarily too much and expect them to complete in a ordinary
allocation of time.
What happens inside a company when
everybody around you is plain useless and don't have your high
energy level and when you try to get things moving and prod people
your manager is told to pull you into line. Are you caught between a
rock and a hard place? It is easy to reduce your energy level to the
status quo but why should you?
When a much loved colleague leaves, it is a
sad time. Work relationships are really the same as personal
relationships some with the same intensity perhaps even more. So
there is a period of grieving and feeling of loss. Especially if
this person is a natural performer and coach and a beacon for his
colleagues. Someone who is the light and the way.
Managers who skip the detail. Where
something may appear logically right but factually wrong. There are
people who think they can work out the detail just from a few
snippets of the top level. There are people who can work out the top
level just from a few snippets of the detail. The key is knowing
which one are you? The former are minuscule in number. Are you one
of those geniuses?
About Gilbert Labour
Mr Labour is a strategist, consultant,
adviser, speaker and presenter on psychopathy in the workplace, life
coaching, executive coaching, project and program management, Six
Sigma process improvement and people management.
He combines all these skills in a unique
combination, utilising Six Sigma and project management, to provide
modern enlightened companies with truly innovative advice that will
create a sustainable competitive advantage. Mr Labour exercises his
skills and influence with compassion and deep understanding of the
human condition especially where restructures result in overwhelming
change and job loss.
He specialises in the following industries:
legal and accountancy, telecommunications, transportation and
aviation, banking and finance, insurance, government, IT and
outsourcing and believes that his experience in these verticals is
applicable across all industries, countries, languages, cultures and
businesses generally. He has 30 years corporate experience in these
industries.
Every single industry he specialises in
(telcos, aviation, retail banking, insurance, outsourcing) faces
fundamental challenges to continued survival and prosperity in the
21st Century and Mr Labour is well placed to provide a
multi-disciplinary approach to uncovering insights for competitive
advantage.
He sees the management of strategic,
compliance and operational risk as one of the key issues facing
executive managers on a daily basis. But not all companies can take
advantage of formal Basel II and Sarbannes-Oxley (SOX) governance
models.
For those companies that are not in the
financial industry but still require strong governance around the
management of operational risk, Mr Labour is an expert on creating
strategies for managing operational risk supported by strong
programme management structures to ensure compliance.</>
He has been extensively involved in process
improvement initiatives within project and production environments.
He has delivered Six Sigma Green and Black Belt process improvement
programs that provide bottom line improvement whilst maintaining and
enhancing employee morale.
He also owns and runs one of the world's
most comprehensive web resources on the topic of life and executive
coaching containing over 1500 pages of advice and more than 250
articles on life and executive coaching. He has also been quoted in
learned papers, newspaper and magazine articles.
He has written a book on life coaching
which provides an introduction to life coaching for the general
public. He has also written a book on executive coaching, Executive
Coaching for Process Improvement Excellence, that provides daily
insights for top managers looking to succeed in today's fast paced
environment.
He is also a pioneer in the field of
coaching and project management having presented a landmark paper on
this topic at PMISA 2004 (World Conference on Project Management) in
South Africa in May, 04. His paper entitled Sane Project Management, a Life and Executive
Coaching Approach has created both a new field in project
management and a new area of interest and research for coaching and
coaches around the world.
For PMISA 2006 (World Conference on Project
Management) he is presenting a paper entitled Project Management and Six Sigma - a convergent
and divergent model for solving business problems. He seeks to
develop a theoretical and practical model to extract readily
applicable business approaches from both divergence and convergence
of these two disciplines.
He will explore whether coaching can
facilitate the extraction of some of the benefits of this
convergence? This will be continuing an exploration of the
connection between coaching and project management that he first
developed and presented at PMISA 2004.
Mr Labour acknowledges that in today's
highly competitive and rapidly changing business environment, a busy
consultant, life coach or executive coach must evince a compelling
value proposition, as much for himself as for his product and
service.
His unique value proposition is bringing to
bear, on difficult even intractable business problems, a brilliant
mix of both quantitative and qualitative approaches, embracing Six
Sigma, Lean, project management, executive coaching, operational and
line management.
He has a refreshing engaging and vibrant
perspective on life and business in the corporate world. He is able
to engage with any company in the world, within his industry
expertise and beyond, and provide an assessment of the issues and
problems that management suspects exists. He does this on a
pro-active basis and confidentially.
He is also able to execute or be involved
in the execution of any recommendations resulting from these
engagements. He has previously managed large programs of work
involving major restructuring, outsourcing and downsizing.
He forecasts a greater demand for people
with his unique blend of skills in the future especially where
established, staid inefficient companies in otherwise dynamic
industries face head-on competition from more efficient home grown
companies and those companies thriving in the tiger economies of
China and India with their vast pool of cheap, educated and trained
local talent.
Mr Labour will be holding an Executive Coaching Retreat in Mauritius
between 29 May 06 and June 11 06. Further details on the retreat
will be made available as they are finalised.
Life Coaching Tips and Techniques No.
116
That warm glow Part II
You know sometimes you wake in the morning
and you instantly feel you're n the right track, something reminds
you that everything is well and working out for you.
Where does this belief come from? Where
does this reassurance come from? More importantly, how do you know
if this belief is validly held? That is, it is something that will
provide you with medium to long term benefit beside just short term
gratification.
What is the secret of getting that feeling
and most importantly how can you be sure that at the bottom of this
feeling is something rock solid, stable, long lasting and
sustainable?
You get this feeling if you are doing
something you have planned for a long time to do. But that is not
enough. How do you know if this feeling is a harbinger of
continuing/future success or just a chimera?
The connection between the albeit temporary
feeling and something more rock solid is one that most people don't
make. If they just have the first one, they are perceived as
erratic. If they have just the other, they are perceived as staid,
conservative and boring.
How can you be pro-active and enthused yet
still with your feet firmly planted on the ground. This is a very
difficult balancing act. This comes about when there is an
understanding that for you to fly you need to have on board 4 big
solid reliable boring engines. There is no other path to sustained
flight.
About Gilbert Labour
Mr Labour is a strategist, consultant,
adviser, speaker and presenter on psychopathy in the workplace, life
coaching, executive coaching, project and program management, Six
Sigma process improvement and people management.
He combines all these skills in a brilliant
combination, utilising Six Sigma and project management, to provide
modern enlightened companies with truly innovative advice that will
create a sustainable competitive advantage. Mr Labour exercises his
skills and influence with compassion and deep understanding of the
human condition especially where restructures result in overwhelming
change and job loss.
He specialises in the following industries:
legal and accountancy, telecommunications, transportation and
aviation, banking and finance, insurance, government, IT and
outsourcing and believes that his experience in these verticals is
applicable across all industries, countries, languages, cultures and
businesses generally. He has 30 years corporate experience in these
industries.
Every single industry he specialises in
(telcos, aviation, retail banking, insurance, outsourcing) faces
fundamental challenges to continued survival and prosperity in the
21st Century and Mr Labour is well placed to provide a
multi-disciplinary approach to uncovering insights for competitive
advantage.
He sees the management of strategic,
compliance and operational risk as one of the key issues facing
executive managers on a daily basis. But not all companies can take
advantage of formal Basel II and Sarbannes-Oxley (SOX) governance
models.
For those companies that are not in the
financial industry but still require strong governance around the
management of operational risk, Mr Labour is an expert on creating
strategies for managing operational risk supported by strong
programme management structures to ensure compliance.</>
He has been extensively involved in process
improvement initiatives within project and production environments.
He has delivered Six Sigma Green and Black Belt process improvement
programs that provide bottom line improvement whilst maintaining and
enhancing employee morale.
He also owns and runs one of the world's
most comprehensive web resources on the topic of life and executive
coaching containing over 1500 pages of advice and more than 140
articles on life and executive coaching. He has also been quoted in
learned papers, newspaper and magazine articles.
He has written a book on life coaching,
Life Coaching for DODOs, which provides an introduction to life
coaching for the general public. He has also written a book on
executive coaching, Executive Coaching for Process Improvement
Excellence, that provides daily insights for top managers looking to
succeed in today's fast paced environment.
He is also a pioneer in the field of
coaching and project management having presented a landmark paper on
this topic at PMISA 2004 (World Conference on Project Management) in
South Africa in May, 04. His paper entitled Sane Project Management,
a Life and Executive Coaching Approach has created both a new field
in project management and a new area of interest and research for
coaching and coaches around the world.
For PMISA 2006 he is presenting a paper
entitled Project Management and Six Sigma - a convergent and
divergent model. He seeks to develop a theoretical and practical
model to extract readily applicable business approaches from both
divergence and convergence of these two disciplines.
He will explore whether coaching can
facilitate the extraction of some of the benefits of this
convergence? This will be continuing an exploration of the
connection between coaching and project management that he first
developed and presented at PMISA 2004.
Mr Labour acknowledges that in today's
highly competitive and rapidly changing business environment, a busy
consultant, life coach or executive coach must evince a compelling
value proposition, as much for himself as for his product and
service.
His unique value proposition is bringing to
bear, on difficult even intractable business problems, a brilliant
mix of both quantitative and qualitative approaches, embracing Six
Sigma, Lean, project management, executive coaching, operational and
line management.
He has a refreshing engaging and vibrant
perspective on life and business in the corporate world. He is able
to engage with any company in the world, within his industry
expertise and beyond, and provide an assessment of the issues and
problems that management suspects exists. He does this on a
pro-active basis and confidentially.
He is also able to execute or be involved
in the execution of any recommendations resulting from these
engagements. He has previously managed large programs of work
involving major restructuring, outsourcing and downsizing.
He forecasts a greater demand for people
with his unique blend of skills in the future especially where
established, staid inefficient companies in otherwise dynamic
industries face head-on competition from more efficient home grown
companies and those companies thriving in the tiger economies of
China and India with their vast pool of cheap, educated and trained
local talent.
Mr Labour will be holding a world's first
life coaching retreat in Mauritius in November, 06. This will be a
gathering of coaches and their clients from around the world in the
first gathering of its type.
Its purpose will be for coaches to network
with other coaches and for clients to share their general coaching
experience with other clients and coaches. All in the world's most
beautiful holiday destination.
Further details will be made available as
they are finalised. This conference as yet untitled will be hosted
by the Life Coaching Association of Australia (LCAA).
Life Coaching Tips and Techniques No.
115
To CG: A Study in Malice and
Malevolence
Some people are born evil but they hide it
behind their beauty
Beautiful but evil
To trust this person, to allow this person
into your life is to introduce a cancer, a slow decay that will ruin
all peace and quiet.
How do you recognise this person? Their
modus operandi is to use their beauty/attractiveness to lure
unsuspecting people into their web.
To entangle them emotionally. When the
binds have well and truly bitten into the flesh and got a firm hold,
the trap is sprung.
That trap could be a number of things, all
destined to lacerate and destroy you.
Why do they do this? The reasons why they
do this is probably not intimately known to themselves just a
compunction a compulsion to hurt others, especially those who love
them.
Why this desire to destroy, to
self-destruct as it is behavior that is destined to smash everything
around them? Self-loathing has a lot to do with it.
I think key to understanding (and avoiding
this person and the consequences) is to realise that their behavior
is not understandable from normal human interactions and behavioral
mores. They are emotional psychopaths unable to comprehend the
depths of suffering they thrust people into.
About Gilbert Labour
Mr Labour is a strategist, consultant,
adviser, speaker and presenter on psychopathy in the workplace, life
coaching, executive coaching, project and program management, Six
Sigma process improvement and people management.
He combines all these skills in a brilliant
combination, utilising Six Sigma and project management, to provide
modern enlightened companies with truly innovative advice that will
create a sustainable competitive advantage. Mr Labour exercises his
skills and influence with compassion and deep understanding of the
human condition especially where restructures result in overwhelming
change and job loss.
He specialises in the following industries:
legal and accountancy, telecommunications, transportation and
aviation, banking and finance, insurance, government, IT and
outsourcing and believes that his experience in these verticals is
applicable across all industries, countries, languages, cultures and
businesses generally. He has 30 years corporate experience in these
industries.
Every single industry he specialises in
(telcos, aviation, retail banking, insurance, outsourcing) faces
fundamental challenges to continued survival and prosperity in the
21st Century and Mr Labour is well placed to provide a
multi-disciplinary approach to uncovering insights for competitive
advantage.
He sees the management of strategic,
compliance and operational risk as one of the key issues facing
executive managers on a daily basis. But not all companies can take
advantage of formal Basel II and Sarbannes-Oxley (SOX) governance
models.
For those companies that are not in the
financial industry but still require strong governance around the
management of operational risk, Mr Labour is an expert on creating
strategies for managing operational risk supported by strong
programme management structures to ensure compliance.</>
He has been extensively involved in process
improvement initiatives within project and production environments.
He has delivered Six Sigma Green and Black Belt process improvement
programs that provide bottom line improvement whilst maintaining and
enhancing employee morale.
He also owns and runs one of the world's
most comprehensive web resources on the topic of life and executive
coaching containing over 1500 pages of advice and more than 140
articles on life and executive coaching. He has also been quoted in
learned papers, newspaper and magazine articles.
He has written a book on life coaching,
Life Coaching for DODOs, which provides an introduction to life
coaching for the general public. He has also written a book on
executive coaching, Executive Coaching for Process Improvement
Excellence, that provides daily insights for top managers looking to
succeed in today's fast paced environment.
He is also a pioneer in the field of
coaching and project management having presented a landmark paper on
this topic at PMISA 2004 (World Conference on Project Management) in
South Africa in May, 04. His paper entitled Sane Project Management,
a Life and Executive Coaching Approach has created both a new field
in project management and a new area of interest and research for
coaching and coaches around the world.
For PMISA 2006 he is presenting a paper
entitled Project Management and Six Sigma - a convergent and
divergent model. He seeks to develop a theoretical and practical
model to extract readily applicable business approaches from both
divergence and convergence of these two disciplines.
He will explore whether coaching can
facilitate the extraction of some of the benefits of this
convergence? This will be continuing an exploration of the
connection between coaching and project management that he first
developed and presented at PMISA 2004.
Mr Labour acknowledges that in today's
highly competitive and rapidly changing business environment, a busy
consultant, life coach or executive coach must evince a compelling
value proposition, as much for himself as for his product and
service.
His unique value proposition is bringing to
bear, on difficult even intractable business problems, a brilliant
mix of both quantitative and qualitative approaches, embracing Six
Sigma, Lean, project management, executive coaching, operational and
line management.
He has a refreshing engaging and vibrant
perspective on life and business in the corporate world. He is able
to engage with any company in the world, within his industry
expertise and beyond, and provide an assessment of the issues and
problems that management suspects exists. He does this on a
pro-active basis and confidentially.
He is also able to execute or be involved
in the execution of any recommendations resulting from these
engagements. He has previously managed large programs of work
involving major restructuring, outsourcing and downsizing.
He forecasts a greater demand for people
with his unique blend of skills in the future especially where
established, staid inefficient companies in otherwise dynamic
industries face head-on competition from more efficient home grown
companies and those companies thriving in the tiger economies of
China and India with their vast pool of cheap, educated and trained
local talent.
Mr Labour will be holding a world's first
life coaching retreat in Mauritius in November, 06. This will be a
gathering of coaches and their clients from around the world in the
first gathering of its type.
Its purpose will be for coaches to network
with other coaches and for clients to share their general coaching
experience with other clients and coaches. All in the world's most
beautiful holiday destination.
Further details will be made available as
they are finalised. This conference as yet untitled will be hosted
by the Life Coaching Association of Australia (LCAA).
Life Coaching Tips and Techniques No.
10
Obesity and the roller coaster ride from
nadir to zenith and back
There are five journeys in obesity, which
one are you on now?
Why are there obese people when there are
people starving in the world? Is obesity a medical problem rather
than one of lack of self-control or perhaps even one using food for
sexual/sensual gratification for masking (?) the real problems? How
successful is someone who is 250 kilos at 'masking' or hiding the
problem?
The five journeys is obesity are -
Getting there becoming obese, this is the
easiest journey of all and happens almost without you knowing. This
journey is on the road to death.
Staying there at a steady weight, this is a
hard journey because the tendency is to put on more weight not less.
This journey is a slow death.
The next journey is one into hell and that
is on the road to putting on more and more weight. This is the last
journey these people even embark on. This journey ends in death.
The penultimate journey and the one with
the most difficulty starting is the road back away from obesity. The
enormous journey back is not the problem but the first step back,
the first gram lost. This journey is not a journey of weight loss
but a journey to lose the fears and problems that the weight gain
had temporarily put on the back burner. This second last journey is
the life coaching journey and has much less to do with weight loss,
exercise and fitness and more to do with facing problems in their
real intensity and fury perhaps for the first time since the
decision taken to embark on the first journey.
The last journey and that is to keep the
weight at the target weight after the massive task of weight loss
because again the tendency is to put the weight back on even faster
than before and much much faster than it was lost. For every gram
lost a kilo is put on.
Work with a life coach who understands your
weight problem is not a weight problem but a personal problem
posing, impersonating a weight problem. Someone who knows which
journey you are on and can make sure you either move to the next
healthy journey or stay at the healthy journey you're on.
New Life Coaching Service Model - All
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One new low totally all inclusive monthly
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month.
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No need to furnish more than your first
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products.
Use as much of the service as you require
but please note as coaching is a relationship which requires and
places responsibility on you to complete agreed upon tasks, there
will be regular scheduled feedback and catchup sessions. These are
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These services include small business
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---
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Decision to cancel made 4th October and
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No further payments then required due to
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The Platinum Life Coaching Product is now
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programs and the featured programs.
50% Discount for bona fide students. The
fee for students is $200 per month.
You will receive an exceptional level of
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Coaching Programs
555 Program
The 555 Program is complementary to the 333
Program and is part of a family of programs called The Numbered Series, a
simplification of a plethora of products, services and programs into
a number of specifically targeted set of programs that target a very
specific audience with a limited amount of time and resources to
devote to a life and executive coaching program. The programs covers
a set of goals over a set period for a specific (one time only)
fee.
The key goals of the 555 Program is to be
able to run 5k in 5 months, to solve 5 life coaching issues or
problems in 5 months and to investigate and resolve 5 executive
coaching problems in 5 months.
Life Coaching
Portal Programs
Beyond the existing Diamond program being
run on the portal, a series of additional programs are being
developed to be run for specific audiences and which have very clear
targets and goals. These include the following.
The 555 Program
Gilbert Labour, will personally run this
program. It will probably take in the region of 10 suitable people
and run for 5 months. The program is multi-faceted and covers three
main streams a fitness stream, a life coaching stream dealing with
personal issues and an executive stream to supercharge your work,
business and corporate environment.
The first stream is a fitness element. The
goal is to be able to run 5k (non stop) in five months and be able
to lose 5 kilos in the process. This is a modest achievement and is
considered a healthy approach to fitness generally. I am a former
fitness instructor and dance teacher and can provide guidance in
this area. You will need a clearance from your doctor if you're over
45.
The second stream is a life coaching
element. The goal of the life coaching is to investigate a number of
current personal issues and focus on 5 for resolution in 5 months.
One to be resolved or at least worked on each month.
The third stream is an executive coaching
element. The goal of this element is to come up with five goals or
issues to be dealt with in the 5 months of the program. These could
involve working towards a promotion, changing jobs, changing
careers, leaving the corporate environment and developing a small
business. For the hard core executives and other corporate thrivers
and survivors there will be a number of areas that include executive
interview training and executive decision making that can be
covered. There are many others and these can be chosen based on your
current goals. The aim of this stream is canvass all the
possibilities and focus on only 5 and work through each one.
The cost of the program varies. To take part
on a one-on-one basis with Gilbert Labour will cost $5000. To take
part in a group setting will cost $2000. Individual programs can
start at anytime considered suitable.
To provide this program on a company wide
basis (more than 10 people), please call Gilbert Labour for a
quote.
Please call Gilbert Labour on 0409 223 436
if you would like to take part. Further information on the 555
Program is available from the portal.
General Information
I also do a small amount of pro-bono work
in the area of life coaching. I belong to the Life Coaching Pro Bono
Group (LCPBG), a group of life coaches I am putting together to do
this type of work for people in need but who may not be able to
afford the services of a full fee life coach. We make allowances for
your circumstances and also on the understanding that once you're
back on your feet, your capacity to contribute to your life coaching
will also improve.
Generally speaking, we will set clear goals,
we will put in place plans to attain those goals, we will execute
the plan effectively. We will monitor and survey the results and
ensure our goals are met. In most cases, we will envelope what we
are trying to achieve into a coaching programme.
I operate flexibly taking into account the
needs of the client as we progress with the programme.
Please call me on my mobile (0409 223 436)
for a confidential discussion to begin the journey of self
discovery.
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