Fear of failure that stops you or the failure of fear to stop you? Which is it?
What is the fear or feeling of failure? What is it about this fear or feeling that stops us in our tracks from trying the same thing again? In life coaching of course this is a recurrent theme (or nightmare) if you will but it does us good to revisit the basics every now and then.
The feeling of having made a mistake the moment you realise it you've made it and the effect of the mistake is permanent, irrevocable is one of disbelief, shock, looking for anyone else to blame but yourself, embarrassment, how stupid you are, how impatient you were, how gullible you were to listen to yourself and your glory talk. It affects your self-esteem and your confidence and if it is severe enough it can lead to major depression and post-traumatic stress disorder. So making a big mistake can really stuff you up seriously majorly permanently if you don't seek help.
What are some examples of these big mistakes (problems, situations) ---
Choosing the wrong life partner (not just once but making the same mistake more than once)
Developing and maintaining an addiction to alcohol, gambling, drugs, smoking, sex, food, pornography, masturbation, grandstanding
Making wrong investment decisions and losing more money trying to make this loss good, to save face essentially.
Letting yourself go physically and becoming grossly obese. This could be because of the preceding reasons.
Having very messy separations from your previous work, personal and life relationships. Quitting without explanation. A serial quitter.
Inability to letting go of the past, of dead people, of houses you once lived in, of countries/suburbs you once lived in, of languages you once spoke, of successful moments you once lived, of jobs you once held, of people you once knew, of some fleeing fame you once had
How do you avoid making these catastrophic mistakes? You simply cannot, you can only really mitigate the intensity of the fallout
Not making any decisions or making any effort to get ahead in life will not stop you from making catastrophic mistakes - they are as much about doing something as about not doing something (by omission)
You can not avoid them, you should not avoid them, you will not avoid them even if you don't make decisions because decisions will be made for you (the wrong ones)
Even with the best advice and life coach in the world, you will still make mistakes, huge blunders because you just have to make those mistakes for yourself to learn painfully life true lessons. To be humble no matter how great you are or think you are. To be poor no matter what
is in your bank account. To always shoot under rather than over. To fly low even if you're an eagle. To be genuinely self-deprecating especially if you think you're a genius. My father (Raymond) was a genius but the most humble self-effacing person you could meet and you would never guess
you were in the presence of someone who had read 4,000 books, was impossibly wise and had a phenomenal brain to match his huge heart and generosity. Not often you meet this combination. He gave his advice for free. But he had his faults and they were just as big as the man was great. One
of a kind.
Know and accept they are coming and will come and be prepared to accept the consequences with good grace and humour. Huge ask but necessary for your sanity.
Ensure you have a genius for a friend or a life coach who understands you and can help you out of the doldrums quickly when you make these inevitable mistakes.
There is time to recover and there is no time to recover.
About Gilbert Labour. He is an Executive Coach and Life Coach practicing in Sydney Australia but with a world wide interest in coaching with one of the world's leading life and executive coaching web sites. He has 30 years corporate experience in legal, government, telecommunication, banking & finance, insurance, accounting, IT, outsourcing and transportation. He is also a process improvement (Six Sigma, Lean) and project management expert and IT infra-structure professional within those industries. He is available to consult and support on any aspect of executive coaching as it assists organisations in the midst of radical and fundamental change including process improvement efforts preceding large retrenchment programs. The cost of his involvement is dependent on the size of the business and the scope and location of the engagement.
Life Coaching Tips and Techniques No. 10
Obesity and the roller coaster ride from nadir to zenith and back
There are five journeys in obesity, which one are you on now?
Why are there obese people when there are people starving in the world? Is obesity a medical problem rather than
one of lack of self-control or perhaps even one using food for sexual/sensual gratification for masking (?) the real problems?
How successful is someone who is 250 kilos at 'masking' or hiding the problem?
The five journeys is obesity are -
Getting there becoming obese, this is the easiest journey of all and happens almost without you knowing. This journey is on the road to death.
Staying there at a steady weight, this is a hard journey because the tendency is to put on more weight not less. This journey is a slow death.
The next journey is one into hell and that is on the road to putting on more and more weight. This is the last journey these people even embark on.
This journey ends in death.
The penultimate journey and the one with the most difficulty starting is the road back away from obesity. The enormous journey back is not the problem
but the first step back, the first gram lost. This journey is not a journey of weight loss but a journey to lose the fears and problems that the weight gain had
temporarily put on the back burner. This second last journey is the life coaching journey and has much less to do with weight loss, exercise and fitness and more to do with
facing problems in their real intensity and fury perhaps for the first time since the decision taken to embark on the first journey.
The last journey and that is to keep the weight at the target weight after the massive task of weight loss because again the tendency is to put the weight back on
even faster than before and much much faster than it was lost. For every gram lost a kilo is put on.
Work with a life coach who understands your weight problem is not a weight problem but a personal problem posing, impersonating a weight problem. Someone who knows which
journey you are on and can make sure you either move to the next healthy journey or stay at the healthy journey you're on.
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The first stream is a fitness element. The goal is to be able to run 5k (non stop) in five months and be able to lose 5 kilos in the process. This is a modest achievement and is considered a healthy approach to fitness generally.
I am a former fitness instructor and dance teacher and can provide guidance in this area. You will need a clearance from your doctor if you're over 45.
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There are many others and these can be chosen based on your current goals. The aim of this stream is canvass all the possibilities and focus on only 5 and work through each one.
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I also do a small amount of pro-bono work in the area of life coaching. I belong to the Life Coaching Pro Bono Group (LCPBG), a group of life coaches I am putting together to do this type of work for people in need but who may not be able to afford the services of a full fee life coach. We make allowances for your circumstances and also on the understanding that once you're back on your
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Generally speaking, we will set clear goals, we will put in place plans to attain those goals, we will execute the plan effectively. We will monitor and survey the results and ensure our goals are met. In most cases, we will envelope what we are trying to achieve into a coaching programme.
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